He Will Not Marry Me! ******Update********

[Anonymous]

I am currently 18 weeks prego. I have lived with my boyfriend for some time. He previously had an awful marriage. We were always content with our relationship. We are both well educated and employed.  I want to get married. He doesn't.......he will not even discuss it with me. It is not like he doesn't love me. He is so excited about our baby. He is amazing in every way. I just want to be a legal family. What to do?

I added a reply update,but apparently it was not read. I got married on 12/31....

[DazeDelights]

Either deal with it or don't. He has made it clear he doesn't want you to be his wife...he seems to have no problem being just your baby daddy and shacking. What is your next step?

[Anonymous]

Like it or love it. Did you not know his stance before getting pregnant?

[tiggerbabie177]

 Dnt push marriage on him....he still has a bad image of marriage de to his previous one.....when hes ready to get married he will...dont push it or ull push him away

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Quoting Anonymous:

Like it or love it. Did you not know his stance before getting pregnant?

Like I said before.....we were content with our relationship. Marriage was never really brought up.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Quoting tiggerbabie177:

 Dnt push marriage on him....he still has a bad image of marriage de to his previous one.....when hes ready to get married he will...dont push it or ull push him away

What if I end up waiting and he is never ready?

[mama2b100808]

Honey wait! I waited 5 years before I got married to my daughter's dad. The more you wait the more you learn about him. We recently got married July 4th. I still love him just like the first time I set my eyes on him. You can wait. Give him some time.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Quoting mama2b100808:

Honey wait! I waited 5 years before I got married to my daughter's dad. The more you wait the more you learn about him. We recently got married July 4th. I still love him just like the first time I set my eyes on him. You can wait. Give him some time.

I might have made it seem as if he just got divorced..... He has been divorced 6 years and we have been together 3 years!

[SnapIt]

Did you know this before the baby or just found out

He was probably stiffed by his ex and is traumatized
Give him some time
It may be too soon for him

[Anonymous]

Tell him that you will give the baby your last name unless y'all are married.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Quoting Anonymous:

Tell him that you will give the baby your last name unless y'all are married.

I am not too into manipulating him into marrying me. The baby is his. Even if we were not together she would get his last name.