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Can my dr. Refuse a visit--edit(update)

low and behold either the flu or some other nasty virus has hit my house. I called the dr. this mirning and the receptionust said we dont want them in here because there are babies in here and we dont want them getting sick. Ok, i understand the concern, but they could get sick just from a trip to the grocery store. How am i supposed to know what my son has unless i get him to the dr?*********edit: my kids hardly ever get sick. They go to the dr. Once a year typically for their well child visit. The longest they have ever had a fever is about 12 hours and they NEVER saidthe room was spinning. I called the on call the night this happened and they advised me to treat him that night and call the office in the morning for an appointment.******edit again: i cannot respond to everyone cause this post is on fire! I an going to try to answer all questions: there is an urgent care down the street from me but you have to be a patient there. Its where i go but they dont specialize so i brought my kids to a pedi 35 minutes away. I am going to be moving my kids to them in the next few days. I know there is nithing i can do for the flu,which is not what im complaining about, im complaining that they are guessing what my son has instead of finding out for sure. Pneumonia DOES prevent the same as the flu. I had it and so did my neice and the symptoms were the same as my son has now. Our closest ER is 45 mintues away. I called the on call emts in my area the night this happened. They cheked him out, his vitals were perfect and they suggested to all in the morning for an appointment. Thank you tor those who actually showed concern instead of giving me rude comments, like a lot did. He is doing much better, fever is gone but he does still have a nasty cough. One of my twins and my youngest have the fever today so i am convinced now it is the flu and not pneumonia. If there are any questions i missed pkease ask again and i will try to get to it.
*****update: for those of you who said i was overreacting and that people overexaggerate how sick their kids are...two of my kids now have ear infections, so i do think my dr.was wrong not to see them.

~Melissa~Wife to Jarrod~Mommy to Nathan, Kristina, Tyler, and Ryan~

by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 10:03 AM
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by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 14, 2013 at 8:32 PM
That is good. I have a friend starting her 3rd week of the flu.

Quoting Nathans_mom0612:

Quoting ZakkarysMom:

I hope your lo starts to feel better soon.

Thanks. He has gone 16 hours without a fever and no pain meds so i think he is starting to get better.

by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 9:57 PM

My childrens dr has a well child room seperate.

by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 11:48 PM
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And if it isnt the flu...what if its pneumonia and they are refusing to treat. Sorry but that is cause for concern in my eyes.

1) Symptoms of FLU and symptoms of PNEUMONIA are significantly different.  The MEDICAL PERSONNEL listened to what you described, and told you THIS SOUNDS LIKE THE FLU.  If it would have sounded like pneumonia, they would have said, "THIS SOUNDS LIKE PNEUMONIA".  The ability to make that distinction is what their education is for.   
2) Flu is VIRAL.  There is NO TREATMENT for a virus, except time, and symptom comfort, which you can obtain over the counter. 

3) Drs offices, like ERs, are OVERFLOWING with people who do not need treatment, as per items 1  & 2 above.  Do everyone a favor, and listen to your Dr.

by on Jan. 15, 2013 at 8:14 AM
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Quoting sabrtooth1:

Drs are wrong sometimes. When my niece was younger she was burning up to the point her skin was red. My sister brought her to the dr. They told her it was viral and to go home and rest. Later that night my sister wasn't comfortable with the diagnosis and brought her to the hospital...she had pneumonia and almost died. So yeah, I don't always trust drs.

~Melissa~Wife to Jarrod~Mommy to Nathan, Kristina, Tyler, and Ryan~

by on Jan. 15, 2013 at 9:07 AM
my pedi has a sick room and well room. i'd be looking for a new pedi, not one that plays favorites.
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by on Jan. 15, 2013 at 9:08 AM

Since I'm pregnant, my primary doctor is refusing to see me for my thyroid condtition. She told me that I need to do all care through my OB now, which is in another hospital and it took me 5 weeks to get an appointment with them. I know my levels are off, I can feel it, but they won't help me. I have to still wait another 8 days until I'm seen by my OB and even then, I don't think they'll do blood work that day.

by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 15, 2013 at 9:08 AM

your doc doesn't have a separate waiting area for sick children.

by on Jan. 15, 2013 at 9:08 AM

I'd find a different doctor. My sons pedi has never done this. If you go in with a sick child, the nurses immediately put you in a room.

by on Jan. 15, 2013 at 9:10 AM
There are offices that have "babies only time". Ussually in the morning, and sick or older kids they will see in the afternoon.
Did the receptionist told you what time can Dr see your child???
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by on Jan. 15, 2013 at 9:11 AM
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Ask for the office manager.  My pediatricians office did that and I ended up with $400 in ER copays because they told us to go to the ER.  When I told the pediatrician at our next visit (2 kids both with 104 or higher fevers, 2 ER visits, and when I called the office "No open appointments") he flipped out!  He literally walked out of the exam room and yelled at the office staff and told the office manager he would be speaking with her later about how to handle calls for sick children that NEED to be seen.  He came back in and apologized and told me that if it happens again to come into the office and demand to speak to him directly.  My DH told him that if it happens again, we're showing up at his house after hours (DH is good friends with his son).  So I'd start with the office manager and work your way up the ranks.

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