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Can my dr. Refuse a visit--edit(update)

low and behold either the flu or some other nasty virus has hit my house. I called the dr. this mirning and the receptionust said we dont want them in here because there are babies in here and we dont want them getting sick. Ok, i understand the concern, but they could get sick just from a trip to the grocery store. How am i supposed to know what my son has unless i get him to the dr?*********edit: my kids hardly ever get sick. They go to the dr. Once a year typically for their well child visit. The longest they have ever had a fever is about 12 hours and they NEVER saidthe room was spinning. I called the on call the night this happened and they advised me to treat him that night and call the office in the morning for an appointment.******edit again: i cannot respond to everyone cause this post is on fire! I an going to try to answer all questions: there is an urgent care down the street from me but you have to be a patient there. Its where i go but they dont specialize so i brought my kids to a pedi 35 minutes away. I am going to be moving my kids to them in the next few days. I know there is nithing i can do for the flu,which is not what im complaining about, im complaining that they are guessing what my son has instead of finding out for sure. Pneumonia DOES prevent the same as the flu. I had it and so did my neice and the symptoms were the same as my son has now. Our closest ER is 45 mintues away. I called the on call emts in my area the night this happened. They cheked him out, his vitals were perfect and they suggested to all in the morning for an appointment. Thank you tor those who actually showed concern instead of giving me rude comments, like a lot did. He is doing much better, fever is gone but he does still have a nasty cough. One of my twins and my youngest have the fever today so i am convinced now it is the flu and not pneumonia. If there are any questions i missed pkease ask again and i will try to get to it.
*****update: for those of you who said i was overreacting and that people overexaggerate how sick their kids are...two of my kids now have ear infections, so i do think my dr.was wrong not to see them.

~Melissa~Wife to Jarrod~Mommy to Nathan, Kristina, Tyler, and Ryan~

by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 10:03 AM
Replies (441-448):
annie2244
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:32 AM

From a public health policy perspective, I only think Tamiflu is an appropriate use of health care resources if the patient is at high risk of death from the flu - immunocompromised, the elderly, etc, or if the flu is extraordinarily virulent - such as the bird flu that had WHO worried about a pandemic with high fatalities.

If every person in the US went to their doctor for tamiflu at the first sign of cold and flu symptoms: 1) primary care and ED rooms would be overrun, they don't have capacity for this. 2) most wouldn't get tamiflu, there isn't enough to go around, 3) the incidence of cold and flu would skyrocket, as people who should be home in bed are now sitting in waiting rooms spreading their germs 4) health care premiums would sky rocket. Who do you think pays for all necessary and unnecessary health care expenditures - the health plan members, thru their premium, or JoeTaxpayer.

It benefits all of us to be judicious consumers of our health care resources.


Quoting Anonymous:

Some people like the medication for the flu. Tamiflu is it? I personally choose not to use it. My dd had the flu once 5 years ago.

Quoting annie2244:

If your kid has a cold or the flu, why are you going in for a doctor visit? Unless you think he has strep throat (sore throat high fever), or it is not getting better after a 4-5 days, why would he need a visit? It's a waste of health care resources and he exposes everyone else he comes in contact with to his cold or flu. I agree with the clinic!



Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Jan. 18, 2013 at 11:44 AM
I agree. This is why I made the decision not to use it.

Quoting annie2244:

From a public health policy perspective, I only think Tamiflu is an appropriate use of health care resources if the patient is at high risk of death from the flu - immunocompromised, the elderly, etc, or if the flu is extraordinarily virulent - such as the bird flu that had WHO worried about a pandemic with high fatalities.

If every person in the US went to their doctor for tamiflu at the first sign of cold and flu symptoms: 1) primary care and ED rooms would be overrun, they don't have capacity for this. 2) most wouldn't get tamiflu, there isn't enough to go around, 3) the incidence of cold and flu would skyrocket, as people who should be home in bed are now sitting in waiting rooms spreading their germs 4) health care premiums would sky rocket. Who do you think pays for all necessary and unnecessary health care expenditures - the health plan members, thru their premium, or JoeTaxpayer.

It benefits all of us to be judicious consumers of our health care resources.



Quoting Anonymous:

Some people like the medication for the flu. Tamiflu is it? I personally choose not to use it. My dd had the flu once 5 years ago.



Quoting annie2244:

If your kid has a cold or the flu, why are you going in for a doctor visit? Unless you think he has strep throat (sore throat high fever), or it is not getting better after a 4-5 days, why would he need a visit? It's a waste of health care resources and he exposes everyone else he comes in contact with to his cold or flu. I agree with the clinic!




Donya90
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 12:31 AM

I dont know what butt wipes would be so mean to you with regard to your children! God gave you that funny feeling....for a reason! It called Mothers intuition! I once let a doc, when I took my child in, who hardly looked at my 4 year old, did not do one test, convice me I was just " a worry wort". I too didnt take my kids to the doctor very often. The next day she ran a 109 fever and passed out while I was feeding her 6mo old sister. She Rocky Mountain Spotted Fever! I had picked a tick off her ear a few days before. She never had a rash, but her fingers began to peel under the nails! She nearly died. Two children died from the same thing that very week!  Over a week in the hospital and we finally got to bring her home. Lucky too, the meds didnt stain her teeth....but we didnt care. Id take her yellow teeth any day over my precious girl being gone. She is now nearly 20. I should have listened to myself. I knew something was really wrong with her! What made it worse....the nurses at the ER blamed me for being an idiot!!! Lucky me my husband, a doc himself, set them straight as I was a mess. I spent every day with my little girl. While my 6 mo old was being taken care by family. I told myself to never go against that gut feeling ever again. It paid off again when she and her sister had bad colds at 14 and 10. Both develped walking Pneumonia, shared a room at the hospital. This time, I didnt take no gump, I said to admit both of them! I cant take care of them both! What was supposed to be a couple of days for each, ended up 9 days as both resisted the iv antibiotics. Never take gump from a receptionist, doc, or nurse! They put their pants on the same way we do! They are not GODS! Just trying to be helpful. I hear about this all the time and it just makes me so mad when some poor mom is not treated nicely because she cares. Praying for your babies to feel better from their ear infections!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 49 on Jan. 19, 2013 at 12:32 AM


Quoting Nathans_mom0612:

low and behold either the flu or some other nasty virus has hit my house. I called the dr. this mirning and the receptionust said we dont want them in here because there are babies in here and we dont want them getting sick. Ok, i understand the concern, but they could get sick just from a trip to the grocery store. How am i supposed to know what my son has unless i get him to the dr?*********edit: my kids hardly ever get sick. They go to the dr. Once a year typically for their well child visit. The longest they have ever had a fever is about 12 hours and they NEVER saidthe room was spinning. I called the on call the night this happened and they advised me to treat him that night and call the office in the morning for an appointment.******edit again: i cannot respond to everyone cause this post is on fire! I an going to try to answer all questions: there is an urgent care down the street from me but you have to be a patient there. Its where i go but they dont specialize so i brought my kids to a pedi 35 minutes away. I am going to be moving my kids to them in the next few days. I know there is nithing i can do for the flu,which is not what im complaining about, im complaining that they are guessing what my son has instead of finding out for sure. Pneumonia DOES prevent the same as the flu. I had it and so did my neice and the symptoms were the same as my son has now. Our closest ER is 45 mintues away. I called the on call emts in my area the night this happened. They cheked him out, his vitals were perfect and they suggested to all in the morning for an appointment. Thank you tor those who actually showed concern instead of giving me rude comments, like a lot did. He is doing much better, fever is gone but he does still have a nasty cough. One of my twins and my youngest have the fever today so i am convinced now it is the flu and not pneumonia. If there are any questions i missed pkease ask again and i will try to get to it.
*****update: for those of you who said i was overreacting and that people overexaggerate how sick their kids are...two of my kids now have ear infections, so i do think my dr.was wrong not to see them.

Better to let a ear infection run its course and yes they can still refuse to see you. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 25 on Jan. 19, 2013 at 1:27 AM
Hmmmm... I don't really see where you're getting that anyone made an emergency everyone's fault??? Lots of people don't get their children vaccinated and that is their choice so who are you to judge someone for doing what THEY believe is better for the health of THEIR children, NOT YOURS, and now you're giving me the 'Way to go... Blah Blah Blah' speech because somehow you know everything and are automatically right? Really? So I would like to know how 'I' created an emergency? Oh wait, because you're clairvoyant and somehow know I didn't have my DD vaccinated and now the world is going to end!!! Holy catfish y'all, run for cover!!!! Actually, no one said EMERGENCY, ever! Also, not that its any of you're buisness but I will tell you so that you get over yourself and realize that you don't know crap because my DD is totally up to date on ALL of her vaccines AND had her flumist Oct 6!!! Don't know it all now, do ya? So how did I create this again??? Oh, that's right, I DIDN'T!!! Kids get sick, parents take their sick children to their DOCTOR, kids get better!!! Wow, it's a miracle!!! Who knew??? Oh wait, I'm sorry, I'm being irresponsible and not being proactive all because I worry because my DD is sick? I thought that just came with being a mom??? Maybe not for you but I worry each and every time my DD gets sick! That's all part of caring and loving your child! I guess you don't know anything about that! So next time before you want to be a nasty, rude pig who thinks she knows everything, don't respond! Have a great day doll!


Quoting Anonymous:

So now you worry instead of being proactive, responsible, and following cdc advice to get your family vaccinated. Wtg making the emergency YOU created everyone else's fault.




Quoting Anonymous:

This same thing just happened to a 6 year old girl where I live. Dr refused to see her, sent her home, she had the flu and she died that night! That terrified me! I have a 6 year old and she just came down sick so of course first thing I called for an appt. I would not wait until Friday!!!






Quoting Nathans_mom0612:

Quoting Roo1234:

A lot of doctors are doing this right now.  However, I would ask if your doctor's office has a well-child waiting room and could they not restrict those who are there for check-ups only to that room.

Call the office back and ask for at least a phone consultation and instructions on how it is to be diagnoised without a doctor so you can treat it accordingly










They just called back and said to just keep up with the motrin and stay hydrated. They said it sounds like the flu but if he isnt better by friday to call back.



Nathans_mom0612
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 8:22 AM
Quoting Anonymous:




Well they did see them...thats how i found out aboutbthe ear infection. The dr. Actually said when they get older it is better to run its course...if they have already had ear infections. My kids never have so he said we should treat it.

~Melissa~Wife to Jarrod~Mommy to Nathan, Kristina, Tyler, and Ryan~

03amanda
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:47 AM

my kids ped.. dr wont see unless they have high fever or having hard time beathing and if really coughing, but i their two drs they have their really good

 

deltathree
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 3:41 PM

I agree w/ your update.  I had the flu which went into bronch. which is now pneumonia b/c docs don't wanna listen!  Hope your kiddos are better soon.

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