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Can my dr. Refuse a visit--edit(update)

low and behold either the flu or some other nasty virus has hit my house. I called the dr. this mirning and the receptionust said we dont want them in here because there are babies in here and we dont want them getting sick. Ok, i understand the concern, but they could get sick just from a trip to the grocery store. How am i supposed to know what my son has unless i get him to the dr?*********edit: my kids hardly ever get sick. They go to the dr. Once a year typically for their well child visit. The longest they have ever had a fever is about 12 hours and they NEVER saidthe room was spinning. I called the on call the night this happened and they advised me to treat him that night and call the office in the morning for an appointment.******edit again: i cannot respond to everyone cause this post is on fire! I an going to try to answer all questions: there is an urgent care down the street from me but you have to be a patient there. Its where i go but they dont specialize so i brought my kids to a pedi 35 minutes away. I am going to be moving my kids to them in the next few days. I know there is nithing i can do for the flu,which is not what im complaining about, im complaining that they are guessing what my son has instead of finding out for sure. Pneumonia DOES prevent the same as the flu. I had it and so did my neice and the symptoms were the same as my son has now. Our closest ER is 45 mintues away. I called the on call emts in my area the night this happened. They cheked him out, his vitals were perfect and they suggested to all in the morning for an appointment. Thank you tor those who actually showed concern instead of giving me rude comments, like a lot did. He is doing much better, fever is gone but he does still have a nasty cough. One of my twins and my youngest have the fever today so i am convinced now it is the flu and not pneumonia. If there are any questions i missed pkease ask again and i will try to get to it.
*****update: for those of you who said i was overreacting and that people overexaggerate how sick their kids are...two of my kids now have ear infections, so i do think my dr.was wrong not to see them.

~Melissa~Wife to Jarrod~Mommy to Nathan, Kristina, Tyler, and Ryan~

by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 10:03 AM
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by Anonymous 6 on Jan. 15, 2013 at 9:29 AM
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I don't care if you have 1 kid or 20. If you're not paying attention to your SICK child and following what's going on in their body, making sure they get enough fluids, knowing when something is seriously wrong, etc.. then you SHOULDN'T be a parent.

People feel as soon as theirs kids get sick its a run to the doctor so they can fix their child. Then bitch and moan when their kids aren't better the next day because magically the doctor saying your kid has the flu isn't going to fix your kid.

Quoting kameka:

Coulda shoulda woulda - if you're a stressed out first time mom things can be missed. That's no excuse for a doc not to see a sick child.

Quoting Anonymous:

If a parent doesn't know their child is dehydrated, they need some parenting classes 101 here.

Come on.... everyone should know their own kid well enough, and while sick like this should be strongly following them on how much they've had for fluids.

Quoting kameka:

My doc has a well-baby waiting room for those under 3 months, a well-child room and a sick-child room. Everyone is separated and I would be FURIOUS if they said not to come in. Both of my youngest had the flu this year and were prescribed Tamiflu which can shorten and lesson the symptoms. It's not like there's nothing they can do for it! And what if the child is dehydrated and the parent didn't realize?
by on Jan. 15, 2013 at 9:30 AM

I would've taken him to the er right then and there. But thats just me.

Quoting Nathans_mom0612:

Quoting matofour:

How long has your child been ill?

Three days. He woke up last night telling me the room was spinning and he was white as a ghost.

by on Jan. 15, 2013 at 9:32 AM
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Are your kids weak, lethargic, high fever that doesn't break with a fever reducer, dehydrated, difficulty breathing? Pre existing condition that makes them at risk of needing an ER trip? They don't need to be seen really if not.

To answer your question, yes, they can.

by on Jan. 15, 2013 at 9:34 AM

thats the first ive ever heard of something that like!!! I would find a new office since they are not showing your children the respect they are showing others. I dont care if there are babies in a doctors office, they need to take care off ALL their patients!!

by on Jan. 15, 2013 at 9:35 AM
This is why my ped has a different entrance for babies and they are kept on a different floor on the office.
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by on Jan. 15, 2013 at 9:37 AM

Quoting Nathans_mom0612:

Quoting ZakkarysMom:

I hope your lo starts to feel better soon.

Thanks. He has gone 16 hours without a fever and no pain meds so i think he is starting to get better.

Then I would keep him at home. There is nothing the doctor can do about the flu and instead of dragging him out in the cold and making him more miserable,just treat his symptoms at home. If he becomes dehydrated or something like that, then I'd take him to the ER but for the flu, I wouldn't take him out

by on Jan. 15, 2013 at 9:38 AM

Wow! Our doctor's office has a sick side and a well side. I think I would call back and demand to speak with someone else. Then I would take them to a walk in clinic.

by on Jan. 15, 2013 at 9:44 AM
I wouldn't take my child unless they seemed to be dehydrated, have an infection or a fever over 104 that would not break! But, on another note, I pay for our insurance so that my kids can go to the doctor whenever I feel they need to go! It is up to me as the parent to make the decition and would change doctors if we were ever turned away!
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by on Jan. 15, 2013 at 9:49 AM
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You can always wear masks to not contaminate.

by on Jan. 15, 2013 at 9:50 AM
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I agree with your pedi.  

My dd has a birth defect that left her with half a lung only.  If we had the same pedi, and she went in for a well visit, we'd be screwed.  Its viral, very contagious, and not treatable with a prescription.  What do you want the pedi to do for you, agree he is sick?  Why go in and give it to everyone else's child?

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