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School Tells Bullied Sixth Grader to Get a Breast Reduction

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School Tells Bullied Sixth Grader to Get a Breast Reduction

Posted by Jeanne Sager
on January 18, 2013 at 4:20 PM

boobies braceletIn every grade school class there is that one girl who develops way ahead of the pack. She's the envy of some, the nightmare of others, and an easy target for bullies. And for one sixth grade girl in Missouri, the bullying got really out of control when it started coming from her school administrators who told the 13-year-old to get a breast reduction!

Well, the school got one thing right -- something needs to be done about the boobs. And by that I mean the administrators who would dare tell a child that their body is the problem.

What's next? Telling the overweight girl that she needs to take up an eating disorder so people will leave her alone? Or maybe the schools will start requiring plastic surgery for the kid with the port wine stain?

Or, you know, we could just tell the bullies where to shove it.

Sigh. I wish I could re-write this story for this poor girl, that school administrators would have done their jobs and told the kids picking on her breasts to grow up.

But for some reason this "blame the victim" mentality seems to be entrenched in schools all across this country. It's not just the boobs in the Riverview Gardens School District. A mom recently related that her son was being called a gay slur by his classmates. The school's response? They told her to cut her son's hair.

This is just what the bullies want -- they want to make life harder for their victims, and when districts turn on the kids who are being wronged, they're playing right into their hands. This poor girl is simply growing. She can't help that. But in telling her to get a breast reduction, the school is trying to make science and nature the bad guy here instead of the kids who need to learn some compassion.

Is it any wonder kids are bullies? We still have adults who work with kids and who find it acceptable to treat kids as if their naturally developing bodies are a problem. Until the adults change, this is not going to stop!

Have you dealt with a "blame the victim" issue in your district? What happened?

by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 1:27 PM
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SagaMom
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:43 PM

My daughter was kicked out of school in the 8th grade because she got pregnant.  The pricipal and vice pricipal told her that she had to leave school because she was a bad influence on the other girls. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 25 on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:46 PM
That's really sad, but does not surprise me in the slightest. School administrators are there for a paycheck and want what is easy. Instead of making the bullies stop running their mouths its easier to shut up the victim. That's why a lot of bullying goes unreported.
NewMamaBoo
by Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:48 PM

Wow

copperked
by Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:51 PM
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The administrators obviously don't get it. Bullying isn't about the size of breasts, or body weight, or birthmarks. It's about finding someone else's insecurities and abusing them over it. Everyone has insecurities. Even if this girl were to get a breast reduction or the boy gets his hair cut, the bullies will find something else to hurt them with. Changing the victim doesn't stop the bully. It only encourages and empowers them. It teaches them that they can force people to extremes if they push hard enough.

Momandwife2ADD
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:53 PM

You wouldn't believe the schools stance on bullying these days. We are currently in a situation in which my 6th grader posted a message on Instagram, stating that someone at school was being mean to his 2 best friends and that person needed to stop being so mean. Well, that "someone" went to the teacher and said she was being "cyber-bullied" by my child. My child got in trouble. I went and talked to the teacher and said he was just standing up for his friends. APPARENTLY, in my district, GOSSIP is considered BULLYING!!!!!! You better watch what you say and who you say it to because it could get you in trouble......that is so sad...

AutymsMommy
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:55 PM
I went through something similar in highschool. I don't really see it as comparable though; unless your dd was raped, the pregnancy was well within her control, as it was mine. Breast size, not so much.


Quoting SagaMom:

My daughter was kicked out of school in the 8th grade because she got pregnant.  The pricipal and vice pricipal told her that she had to leave school because she was a bad influence on the other girls. 


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CutieCrab
by Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:56 PM
Awful! I would switch schools!
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 26 on Jan. 19, 2013 at 11:59 PM

This comes as no surprise to me. It is pretty apparent that the school districts are just trying to cover their own butts these days, they long ago stopped actually caring for individual students. They don't care that the girl is being bullied, they just want to make the situation go away. They don't want a parent suing them because the daughter killed herself for being bullied. It's easier to tell the girl to get a reduction than to deal with all of those bullies plus their parents, who would more than likely leap to their bully children's defense. This is the problem with it being so difficult to hold teachers and administrators responsible and accountable. They know they won't be fired, so why bother to actually do their job? Please, tell me again why we need to raise school taxes to fund these idiots.

katarina666
by New Member on Jan. 20, 2013 at 12:03 AM

                                                                                        WTF                                                                                                                 

               This is ridiculous! If I were her parent I would sue for mental anguish , and sexual herasment. They would never do this,to a boy. If a boy had a huge dick. But then they are huge DICKS! I hope they catch bloody hell for being so ignorant ,and insensative!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 27 on Jan. 20, 2013 at 12:04 AM

this story is from kc mo. it was just on the news the other day. they told her she could move to another school. instead of dealing with the problem

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