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School Tells Bullied Sixth Grader to Get a Breast Reduction

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School Tells Bullied Sixth Grader to Get a Breast Reduction

Posted by Jeanne Sager
on January 18, 2013 at 4:20 PM

boobies braceletIn every grade school class there is that one girl who develops way ahead of the pack. She's the envy of some, the nightmare of others, and an easy target for bullies. And for one sixth grade girl in Missouri, the bullying got really out of control when it started coming from her school administrators who told the 13-year-old to get a breast reduction!

Well, the school got one thing right -- something needs to be done about the boobs. And by that I mean the administrators who would dare tell a child that their body is the problem.

What's next? Telling the overweight girl that she needs to take up an eating disorder so people will leave her alone? Or maybe the schools will start requiring plastic surgery for the kid with the port wine stain?

Or, you know, we could just tell the bullies where to shove it.

Sigh. I wish I could re-write this story for this poor girl, that school administrators would have done their jobs and told the kids picking on her breasts to grow up.

But for some reason this "blame the victim" mentality seems to be entrenched in schools all across this country. It's not just the boobs in the Riverview Gardens School District. A mom recently related that her son was being called a gay slur by his classmates. The school's response? They told her to cut her son's hair.

This is just what the bullies want -- they want to make life harder for their victims, and when districts turn on the kids who are being wronged, they're playing right into their hands. This poor girl is simply growing. She can't help that. But in telling her to get a breast reduction, the school is trying to make science and nature the bad guy here instead of the kids who need to learn some compassion.

Is it any wonder kids are bullies? We still have adults who work with kids and who find it acceptable to treat kids as if their naturally developing bodies are a problem. Until the adults change, this is not going to stop!

Have you dealt with a "blame the victim" issue in your district? What happened?

by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 1:27 PM
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kybelle
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 2:58 PM

This is absolutely ridiculous. I had large breast at 13 and if I was told by my school I needed a breast reduction my mother would have flipped out. I would flip out if my dd was told this as well! 

AmericanChild82
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 3:04 PM

 I'd own that school and every administrator's ass in it.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jan. 19, 2013 at 3:07 PM

As someone who went through a reduction, it was hard on me as a 20 yr old.  I can't imagine what how hard it would be for a 6th grader.

I was that girl who developed before anyone else.  I was in a DD in the 9th grade.  My back hurt like you wouldn't believe.  My shoulders hurt.  Guys thought I would be "easy".  It's hard having people think that.

I feel for that child.  No one should have to be bullied because of their boob size.  IF the administrator said that (No matter the context), there should be consequences.  Suspension w/o pay, or even termination.  Not to mention a public apology.  Shame on them.

GhettoKoolAide
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 3:24 PM
Someone would be swallowing their teeth. Absolutely disgusting and moronic.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Jan. 19, 2013 at 3:25 PM

I find that so hard to believe, because at age 22 I had one.  And at least in the state of Ohio, you can't get one until age 18, and even then, you'd have to go through counseling to discuss how this can change/prevent breastfeeding, etc.


AndrewsMommy01
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 3:28 PM

I feel so bad for this girl. I developed very early on myself. I was teased so bad in school. Kids started rumors that I had breast inplants. The year after that I was then deemed the slut of my high school even though I had not even had sex or a boyfriend once in my life yet.

deltathree
by Bronze Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 3:33 PM

that's terrible!

Mama2ETA
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 3:34 PM
I'm embarrassed to be from Missouri right now
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Bauxite-17
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 3:34 PM

That is far beyond wrong...

NatashaOlivia
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 3:34 PM
I cannot believe this story, that's devastating for that poor girl!!!! I was a victim of my teacher once. As a kid and especially as a teenager, I was a little shit. My one teacher used to provoke me and then refuse to teach me, but used to make out to the head (principal) that I was causing disruptions and I was falling behind because I didn't care and I was too "thick" to understand. Eventually a teacher walked in on one of those lessons and saw what really was going on.
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