See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
Well, I don't know exactly how to put this, but to just blurt it out...
I am a 38 yr old woman, in a relationship with a 30 yr old man who has an 11 1/2 yr old son. He is my step-son. I spend most of my time taking care of both of them. I have been put in the main parenting role. Son sees biomom only 8 hours in a week as father has custody and that is all she got in the divorce. So, I am the main mom. This has turned in to a very stressful job at times for me, not being the "mom" and having to deal with her. I take it at times in stride knowing she only got 8 hrs for a reason, and then the jabs at times hurt and I take them personally. I cannot have children of my own. Here comes the stressful and sex problems. I had a hysterectomy. My hormones have played havoc on my body. I have been taking bio-identical hormones since 2005. They have been good to me, but without my own hormones and adjustments in them I still feel like a roller-coaster sometimes and most of the time do not get as "wet" per se as I did in my early 20's before my hyst. Is this normal?
My 30 yr old man thinks I am out of his league and wants to lavish all over me. Touch me and caress me and love me. I am bowled over by his affections and do not want on that pedestal, he has a low self esteem and thinks I am "out-of his league". I am to the point of pushing him away at times, OK to be honest, most of the time as I feel lots of men have used me as that beauty object. It has put a large strain recently on our relationship.
My past includes 3 rapes and men trying to use me as I am small build with large breasts that attract more than I want for attention.
But, between stress that this has caused, I suffer from migraines, the more he pushes, the more migraines, I get, the more I can't relax to even be intimate. Then, financially we are struggling, so I am stressed over that, and then being a full-time parent and making the house run smoothly, and can my age and hormones play a part in the "not really want to". And has anyone else ever been put off by a man just wanting to touch you 24/7?? Maybe I am just weird...
If anyone has some SERIOUS input, I would really respect some help.
If you are just here to troll, buzz off...
*You can't stop loving or wanting to love because when it is right, it is the best thing in the world. When you're in a relationship and it's good, even if nothing else in your life is right, you feel like your whole world is complete.* Keith Sweat