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IVF abroad

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Has anyone here gone to another country to do IVF?  We've tried it here in the states but it's so expensive.  Loooking into programs in European countries because it's half the cost even with the trip but, would like to know what someone elses experiences have been.

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 25, 2013 at 11:37 AM
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Yellowlily333
by Member on Jan. 27, 2013 at 2:08 PM

Yes, they were private adoptions. In 3 of them birth parents sought us out. The first was a waitress, at my husbands old resturant, that saw how much we loved our little boy, she approached us and we wholeheartly agreed, the second was a dear friend who accidently got pregnant with her 4th. Knowing what we have been thru-she asked if we would like to adopt. When she miscarried idk who was more upset her or us. The 3rd was another friend who at 46 with 2 grown kids found herself pregnant. She asked us to adopt. Due to medical issues she aborted. The 4th was our nephew who was 6 we kept him til he was 8, wanted to adopt but his Dad was able to regain custody. Essencially we fostered him. We are very pro foster care. We have looked into it. It is something we plan to do eventually. I want to have/adopt another child that cannot be taken from me again (as was the case with my nephew) before we go that route. BUT someday I want to at least foster, but more than likely adopt from foster care!!

Quoting mehamil1:

Did you go for private adoption? Those are notorious for falling through. Have you gone through the foster system? There are great kids in foster care. Not all of them are fire starters. 

I get what you went through. I donated my eggs to a friend who went through the nightmare you went through. She now has a beautiful 3 year old daughter. I am not against IVF or private adoption, but when is enough enough? The Foster system has it's pitfalls. I am aware of them. Too aware. However, sometimes that's the last guaranteed resort people are left with when all other options are exhausted but they still want a big family. A lot of the kids are older but think of what you could do for a child who had absolutely no one in this world who loves them and wants them. 

Quoting Yellowlily333:

I am grateful. He is such a joy! He is handsome, and kind. Def the smartest child I have ever met. I love and adore him! However, I have always wanted lots of kids. My sweet little boy prays for brothers and sisters.

Quoting Anonymous:
Quoting Yellowlily333:
Quting Anonymous:

What do you consider expensive? Do you not have insurance? If you can't afford to produce a child how can you support one? 

Ugh! I hate when ppl say this crap! Would you want to drop $15.000 on a MAYBE kind of thing?? Normally when ppl come to the IVF means they have already tried a long list of other things that have not yielded results. I am considering IVF, as calender method, mucus evaluations, ovulation tests of a billion different brands, endometriosis surgury that resulted in finding out I didn't even have endometrosis, physicals of hubby and myself, semen anylasis, IUI's, 4 failed adoptions for a variety of reasons. One of which involved raising a child for 2 years. Now throw in all the price of all those preg tests, and the fees I got from the hospitals both time I got pregnant and miscarried. All the dr appts, blood work etc. Plus our clinic is over 2 hrs away. Add in all that gas money.

I have had ONE child. He has never wanted for anything. He has a great life. If I ever have/adopt more they will also have a great life-I CAN provide for them. But adding more costs would seriously hurt our budget. Which is why we like most families use IVF as a last last resort!

Try kindness and support. Infertilty is exhausting and more heartbreaking than you could ever imagine. Skip the mean judgement next time. Us struggling with infertility have enough to deal with already.

Not being mean but after all that I would be so greatful of the child I have and quit trying options.  


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 28, 2013 at 1:53 PM

Not in my state, they don't.  We had Aetnathourgh my husband's work last year and they flatly said NO.It may also depend on the coverage your employer wants to choose.  Our state doesn't require that insurance companies pay for fertility treatments so they don't. 


Quoting headingsouth13:

Aetna cover 6 cycles of ivf

Quoting moneysaver6:

I don't know of any insurance that covers IVF.

Quoting Anonymous:

What do you consider expensive? Do you not have insurance? If you can't afford to produce a child how can you support one? 



 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 28, 2013 at 2:34 PM

Thank you all for your comments.  We are doing our homework, that's why I wanted to get first hand experiences from others  I have done  the adoption route before only to have to give my beautiful baby girl back.  I'm not relishing the  thought of having to go through that again.  As another poster said, I want a child that is mine and that I don't have to give back to someone else. Insurance does not cover any of the cost in my state so all of it is out of pocket.  We chose the best RE and clinic in the state and paid about $20K.  Unfortunately, it has come down to a business decision.  While our financial status is quite comfortable we do not have endless funds so we need to get the best "bang for our buck" as it were. 

The clinics we are researching are in Europe and so far have good medical reviews and reputations.  We also have friends and family who live in Euorpe doing research for us as well.  The cost there ends up being half of what we have paid here, including flight,  accomodations, food, etc. plus we get a vacation out of the deal which certainly helps with the stress level. 

LittlePistol87
by on Jan. 28, 2013 at 2:39 PM

Woa!!! Snarky much?? Let her live her life. She never asked you to give her money. She obviously could afford it since she's already tried it and decided to try somewhere cheaper. Geeze you ppl are mean under Anon. 

Quoting Anonymous:

What do you consider expensive? Do you not have insurance? If you can't afford to produce a child how can you support one? 


headingsouth13
by on Jan. 28, 2013 at 3:11 PM

what state do you live in we are in new york and they cover 6 cycles and we get it through my husband employer as well

Quoting Anonymous:

Not in my state, they don't.  We had Aetna thourgh my husband's work last year and they flatly said NO.It may also depend on the coverage your employer wants to choose.  Our state doesn't require that insurance companies pay for fertility treatments so they don't. 


Quoting headingsouth13:

Aetna cover 6 cycles of ivf

Quoting moneysaver6:

I don't know of any insurance that covers IVF.

Quoting Anonymous:

What do you consider expensive? Do you not have insurance? If you can't afford to produce a child how can you support one? 





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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 29, 2013 at 2:13 PM

We're in Oklahoma.


Quoting headingsouth13:

what state do you live in we are in new york and they cover 6 cycles and we get it through my husband employer as well

Quoting Anonymous:

Not in my state, they don't.  We had Aetna thourgh my husband's work last year and they flatly said NO.It may also depend on the coverage your employer wants to choose.  Our state doesn't require that insurance companies pay for fertility treatments so they don't. 


Quoting headingsouth13:

Aetna cover 6 cycles of ivf

Quoting moneysaver6:

I don't know of any insurance that covers IVF.

Quoting Anonymous:

What do you consider expensive? Do you not have insurance? If you can't afford to produce a child how can you support one? 







headingsouth13
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 7:55 PM

oh okay. i wish you the best in your journey with ivf. after this pregnancy we are looking at ivf or a gestational surrogate

Quoting Anonymous:

We're in Oklahoma.


Quoting headingsouth13:

what state do you live in we are in new york and they cover 6 cycles and we get it through my husband employer as well

Quoting Anonymous:

Not in my state, they don't.  We had Aetna thourgh my husband's work last year and they flatly said NO.It may also depend on the coverage your employer wants to choose.  Our state doesn't require that insurance companies pay for fertility treatments so they don't. 


Quoting headingsouth13:

Aetna cover 6 cycles of ivf

Quoting moneysaver6:

I don't know of any insurance that covers IVF.

Quoting Anonymous:

What do you consider expensive? Do you not have insurance? If you can't afford to produce a child how can you support one? 








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RachelIVF
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 7:25 AM

This is where I got the information about having my IVF treatment abroad: http://www.myivfalternative.com/ 

The treatment takes place in the Czech republic, you have to pay for your flights and medication, but everything else is sorted for you. It was a really relaxing experience as I felt like I was on vacation and then just had to pop into the clinic to "Get the job done" as my husband would say.

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