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Match.com sued by Cali woman who says she was raped by sexual predator she met on dating site

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A California woman is suing Match.com, saying she was raped by a man she met on the popular dating website.

Alan Paul Wurtzel

Alan Paul Wurtzel

 

A California woman has sued Match.com, saying she was raped by a sexual predator she met on the popular dating website.

The woman says the alleged attacker previously faced sex crime charges, and the website could have prevented the assault with proper screening of members, according to the lawsuit filed Wednesday in Los Angeles Superior Court.

Her attorney, Mark L. Webb, described his client as an entertainment exec and Ivy League grad. She was identified in court documents only as Jane Doe.

He is asking for a temporary injunction prohibiting Match.com from signing on more members until the site promises to screen its clients for sexual predators.

The woman was allegedly raped in her home by Alan Paul Wurtzel after the two went on their second date at a café in West Hollywood last year. She said after the date he followed her home and forced himself on her.

The man's attorney, Sharron Morris, described the incident as "a consenting sexual encounter."

Wurtzel was previously charged with two felony sexual assault counts in Los Angeles last year. He pleaded not guilty, and the case's next court date is April 26.

Robert Platt, an attorney for Match.com said the company is not responsible and shouldn't be expected to screen all its users.

"Then you'd have to ask for people's social security numbers, which they don't want to do. And of course you'd have to pass on the cost to the consumer of doing this," he said.

Platt pointed to a stipulation on the website saying the company is not liable for such situations.

"It lets people know that they're not providing this service and people use it at their own risk," said Platt.

In February, the dating website received negative press when jilted ex-boyfriend, Wade Ridley, was taken into police custody in Las Vegas on suspicion that he murdered and attempted to murder two women he met on Match.com



This story was from 2011, but just recently, a woman was allegedly beat up by a man she'd been matched up with.

Do you feel safe meeting people online?

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imamomzilla
by Silver Member on Jan. 26, 2013 at 11:11 AM

 Vegas woman attacked shares online dating horror

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LAS VEGAS (FOX5) -

He was supposed to be her perfect match but he almost cost her her life. Mary Kay Beckman of Las Vegas is suing Match.com for $10 million. She said she met a man through the popular dating website and he tried to kill her.

Beckman said she'd been on Match.com for two months when she met Wade Ridley in September 2010. She said it took her only eight days to see his true colors. She broke it off and he turned violent.

He broke into my garage," said Beckman. "When the police arrested him, he said he wasn't there to hurt me. He was there to kill me. His intent was to kill me that night."

Beckman has told her story many times but she still gets emotional recalling the worst experience of her life.

In 2011, Ridley stabbed her 10 times with a butcher knife. When the knife broke, he stomped on her head.

"It's a very traumatic thing for anybody to have to go through," said Ridley.

The 50-year-old real estate agent and mother of two says the attack left her hospitalized for months. She endured three head surgeries and a seizure. While she was in the hospital, Beckman said Ridley killed an Arizona woman he met on the same website.

"I struggled a lot thinking why did she die and why did I live," said Ridley.

She said Ridley came looking for her but authorities arrested him. Ridley then committed suicide in jail.

Now Beckman is suing Match.com, claiming it doesn't do enough to keep violent offenders off its site.

"They don't say one in five are part of an attempted murder or one in five are killed," said Beckman. "They don't tell you people are missing."

Beckman is pushing for a disclaimer on Match.com similar to what you find on cigarettes, warning people dating sites can be harmful.

"God saved me that night for a reason," said Beckman. "I shouldn't be here today. It's my mission and goal to save someone from being hurt or help someone make a different decision with their online dating choices."

Beckman said besides the physical scars she's healed from the attack. She's still in counseling but she's now in a happy and healthy relationship with a man she did not meet online.

Match.com issued this statement:

"What happened to Mary Kay Beckman is horrible but this lawsuit is absurd. The many millions of people who have found love on Match.com and other online dating sites know how fulfilling it is. And while that doesn't make what happened in this case any less awful, this is about a sick, twisted individual with no prior criminal record, not an entire community of men and women looking to meet each other."

They add there's online safety tips throughout the site.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 26, 2013 at 11:11 AM
What a dumbass. Don't date someone on a site. Anyone can be one anywhere.
Ednarooni160
by Bronze Member on Jan. 26, 2013 at 11:26 AM

I find this story interesting..I thought Match.com was suppose to be the 'safest' place to go..but pretty pricey from what someone told me..they charge a "fee" right?  I would assume someone setting a dating service up (charging money) would have "done" a background check.. Guess not..or he fell through the cracks..  I bet there's a whole network of "crazies" out there..fooling with people..having fun..committing crimes..getting their jollies.. Yea..you (general you) have to be "very" careful with online socializing. Even if you become friends and you make them mad down the road..it could still go badly with all the info you (general you) gave them. 































































Leobaby2007
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 11:33 AM
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Interesting, and scary. I just reconnected with an old high school friend through FB yesterday, and coincidentally she mentioned she met her husband of 5 years on Match.com. Obviously, that match worked out great. I guess you have to be careful no matter what!

artemisa3001
by Bronze Member on Jan. 26, 2013 at 11:58 AM
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I met my DH on match, we have been married for 6 1/2 years and have a 4 yo DD, we are very happy.


For the people that say that is risky dating online, I want to know what they think about meeting someone in a bar or being introduce by a friend... at the end of the day is the same, nobody really knows if the other person is a perv, criminal or who knows what.


Life is a risk, if you don't want to take a risk, stay home and lock the doors.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 26, 2013 at 12:13 PM
Risk anywhere. Yep.


Quoting artemisa3001:

I met my DH on match, we have been married for 6 1/2 years and have a 4 yo DD, we are very happy.


For the people that say that is risky dating online, I want to know what they think about meeting someone in a bar or being introduce by a friend... at the end of the day is the same, nobody really knows if the other person is a perv, criminal or who knows what.


Life is a risk, if you don't want to take a risk, stay home and lock the doors.


gonecrazi
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 12:47 PM

 Nope, there are too many unstable people out there.

Aivlys_
by on Jan. 26, 2013 at 1:08 PM
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It is so scary, too many deranged people out there. I feel blessed to have met my dh in a more conventional way.........school! :)
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 26, 2013 at 1:14 PM
I think one would have to be desperate to date anyone online. Also meeting people in bars and clubs sounds terrible too, I doubt anyone in those places are looking for a serious relationship. What happened to meeting people at church or school or in college. Glad it worked for u though.

Quoting artemisa3001:

I met my DH on match, we have been married for 6 1/2 years and have a 4 yo DD, we are very happy.


For the people that say that is risky dating online, I want to know what they think about meeting someone in a bar or being introduce by a friend... at the end of the day is the same, nobody really knows if the other person is a perv, criminal or who knows what.


Life is a risk, if you don't want to take a risk, stay home and lock the doors.

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artemisa3001
by Bronze Member on Jan. 26, 2013 at 9:22 PM
Quoting Anonymous:




I moved here from a different country by my self, no family no friends: the only way to meet people was online.

Do you think people from church are all good?
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