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Wife Swap, does it tick anybody else off, or is it just me?

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 I used to like this show. When it first came out I would watch it every time it came on. They would pair up different families, they would get out of their comfort zone, and they'd learn something from each other, the most important thing they learned being to appreciate their own spouse more.

  HOWEVER, at some point, fairly early on, they decided to up the ante in order to try to increase ratings and started finding the MOST radically different families humanly possible. Not just different, but families that they KNEW would most likely fight with each other and hate each other. If one family filled out a form for the show and said, 'Please, whatever you do don't pair me with meat eaters!" They would find someone with a cattle ranch who eats beef at every meal, and make the other wife help slaughter the animal. If someone said on their form, "Just please pair us with another Christian family." They would pair them with a family who would make them pray to Buddah and dance pagan style around a fire while chanting.

    It makes me mad. I can see getting someone in a different environment and out of their comfort zone, that's how people learn and expand their horizens, but when they are TRYING to create conflict and bad feelings between the families, and setting the people up to be forced to do things they don't feel is morally right, I think that's really wrong. Like the episode where the Rodio loving, cowboy loving mom forces the Vegan man to eat meat at every meal, or the episode where  the devoutly, (although also a bit off her rocker) Christian woman is asked to participate in a pagan ritual.

  I'm a Christian, and I don't judge people who aren't, but what you have to understand is that I believe I would be greatly endangering my immortal soul if I prayed to any other God or participated in a pagan ritual. Most Christians would feel that way. Who would want to risk an ETERNITY of damnation just to comply with a TV Show?

  Someonone will probably say, "Nobody is forcing these people to do anything.", but, actually, they sort of are. Everyone knows the rule of this show is that for one week you have to adhere to the home family's rules, then the next week the visiting wife gets to change the rules and everyone in the house has to follow those rules. They already agreed to follow whatever rules they are told before they even meet the other family.

  Although, alternately, it also makes me mad when the husband of a family, after the visiting wife gamely followed their rules all week, gets all macho and refuses to follow the visiting wife's rules, because he's the man of the house and he makes the rules. Um, you knew how the show goes. Why did you sign up if you weren't willing to follow the other family's rules. UNLESS, those rules compromise his morals, like vegans eating meat or doing something that is against your religion, but a lot of these men just refuse because it insults their masculinity.

  This is why I hardly ever watch the show any more. I watched it last night because, surprisingly, my dh put it on, but I stopped watching it regularly long ago.

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 31, 2013 at 10:06 AM
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by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 10:09 AM
All 'reality' shows are like that. That's why I don't watch them.
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by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 10:11 AM

Every reality show is like that. Ironically, most reality shows are not even real. Although WifeSwap is "real" (real families, not actors), my husband and I met someone who was on it and they said that you have a meeting with a psychologist before hand and they sometimes find problems you didn't even know were problems or that the problems even existed. Also, the producers really egg the drama on. It's real, but it's not.

I watch it sometimes and I like the rare occaisions when the show actually helped one or both of the families. 

by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 10:23 AM

Don't watch it.  Too fake.

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 31, 2013 at 11:55 AM

  Yeah, I think you're right. I rarely watch them, either.

Quoting norahsmommy:

All 'reality' shows are like that. That's why I don't watch them.


by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 11:59 AM
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That's the point of the show is to pair differences. No one would watch it otherwise.
Is supposed to teach acceptances of differences.
Although, sometimes it goes too far.
Like a vegetarian will get sick physically eating meat.
I've seen them sell the others stuff.
They need to draw a line somewhere, BUT if you're going on the show you know what you're getting yourself into.

They do need to stop messing work morals, diets, money and educations that will affect them after the show.
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by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:01 PM
It is all repeats now. It got more and more bizarre. Just like Trading Spouses did.
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 11:35 AM

I used to like it to. I still watch it from time to time on you tube but your right as time went on it got crazier because of the drastic families differences.

by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 7:17 PM

It was good when it first started, but went way over the top awhile ago.

by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 7:23 PM

Is that show still on?  I thought it was just in reruns.

by Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 7:27 PM
I have some recorded and I watch some, others I watch about each family and decide not to watch because its over the top. I understand they sign up for it, but I don't feel they should do something like a Vegan having to eat meat or the new Mom spending the families or destroying/selling their property. Would they make a non smoker smoke? I haven't seen that. There should be certain restrictions. I do love when it helps people see how they can make their family better. I usually cry :-)
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