Which is fine. Our daughter is an atheist and we respect her views. Her kids ask us about church and stuff and we explain our beliefs but also let them know that those are our beliefs. We don't force anything on them only answer questions when asked. Our daughter called at the last minute Saturday evening to ask if the kids could stay the night. Her MIL was supposed to keep the kids so she and her husband could have a romantic night away but MIL had come down with this awful stomach bug that's going around. We said of course we'd be happy to have them but we have obligations at church Sunday morning and would have to take the kids with us unless they wanted to come get them before we went. She said that they wouldn't be getting back until the afternoon and that we need to stay home with them because she doesn't want them going to church. My irritation is not that she doesn't want them to go to church but that she issues this edict to her Dad and I that we much change our plans to fit hers even though we clearly explained we already had obligations. I told her we couldn't change our plans and she got very mad. Had we had obligations to any other group besides church our daughter would have understood. But, when it comes to religion she is very beligerant and mean.
A little explantation here.... I call her my daughter but I am actually her step-mom though we have a wonderful relationship and I truly do consider her to be mine. Her mother is a not-so-nice, controlling, hypocritical "christian" who lies and bashes everyone in church for doing exactly what she did Saturday night. They have never had a good relationship and this colors her perspective on religion greatly. And, honestly, I can see why.
Now she's mad and convinced we wouldn't change our plans because we don't respect her being an Antheist. How do I make her see it has nothing to do with religion (or lack-of) but her lack of respect for our time and plans?