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Please don't bash but I actually regret ebf'ing my baby...

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  With my first two, I intended to bf for the first whole year, but only made it to 6 months with ds and 9 months with odd, and that's WITH supplementing with formula from early on. I always worried about the dreaded and much talked about, "nipple confusion", but never once had a problem with that with them. They took to both breast and bottle equally well.

  With this baby, I was determined to ebf for a full year, and I AM proud to say that I've almost made it!! She's almost  11 months now and still doesn't know how  to work a bottle. It was a pain sometimes, because it would be lovely when we're trying to dine at a restaraunt to just give her a bottle and enjoy my meal in peace. I have hardly been able to enjoy ONE meal in peace since she was born. Me trying to eat makes her want to eat. I can manage to eat with a little less trouble now that she can sit in her high chair and eat finger foods, but still...

  I'm really worried about how I'm going to wean her. Whenever I try to teach her how to use a bottle or sippy she can't figure it out. I'm worried I'm not going to be ABLE to wean her when I want to. Plus, she goes to bed at the breast and we bed share, so I'm also not sure how I'll be able to transition her to a crib. I'm EXHAUSTED! Things would have been so much easier if I'd supplemented with a bottle from the beginning. I am glad that she got the best health benefits, and excited that I've actually almost accomplished my ebf for one year goal, but now I'm just worried I've trapped myself.

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 20, 2013 at 3:59 PM
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EarlGrayHot
by on Feb. 22, 2013 at 1:09 PM

Once you've decided you are weaning her from the breast you shouldn't just switch her to the bottle but get her onto cereals and other baby solid food.  Try sippy cups for juice, etc.  ANd I've never heard of "nipplre confusion.  What?

PortiaRose
by Bronze Member on Feb. 22, 2013 at 1:18 PM
whats wrong with you? you cant read so well...

Quoting GertieK:

Your baby is a baby for a very short time in the scheme of things.  She will not be a baby for much longer.  Instead of viewing it like you are trapped, remind yourself that before long she will not only not be wanting to nurse, but will be sitting at the table with her sippy cup, and her own fork, and eating what everyone else does.  This time in her life is very short and very precious.  That does not mean it is easy, or that you don't get frustrated.  Changing how you view the situation will help your state of mind.  You might not get to get to eat a meal in peace at a restaurant for a little while longer, but if you will step back and think of the whole picture, what is really most important for her?  It really won't be long before this is just a past memory, and you want the memory to be one in which you can know you did right by her.  She is a luck baby to have a mama who is willing to EBF as you have.  Don't give up, girl.... you can do it.  She WILL wean, she WILL grow up.... you couldn't stop it even if you wanted to. 

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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 22, 2013 at 1:24 PM
Before a year, baby's primary source of nutrition is either breastmilk or formula. If anyone weans before a year, baby should get breastmilk or formula in a bottle or sippy or cup of preference. Cereal is no longer recommended by AAP as it is nutritionally devoid, and anyone "worried about iron" should offer meats instead. Before a year old, solids are for experimenting with tastes and textures but should not be expected to fill their belly in place of breastmilk or formula.

Nipple confusion is when some breastfed babies get accustomed to a different sucking technique on a bottle or pacifier and literally can not successfully transfer milk from the breast anymore. For some babies it can happen after a single bottle. Some babies go back and forth with no trouble at all.

Quoting EarlGrayHot:

Once you've decided you are weaning her from the breast you shouldn't just switch her to the bottle but get her onto cereals and other baby solid food.  Try sippy cups for juice, etc.  ANd I've never heard of "nipplre confusion.  What?

muchlovedby4
by on Feb. 22, 2013 at 1:49 PM
Dr. Jay Gordon and Kellymom.com are wonderful sources for researching your problem. Weaning doesn't have to be difficult, but it can be a lengthy process.

Also, i am a member of the Breastfeeding group on Cafemom. They have really good advice and most are very NON judgemental. If you click on my SN to go to my page, you can visit via my groups and see if you like it. Just a suggestion. :)

GL momma.
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