My husband and I (well, really, just me) are trying to make a big decision! We've spent weeks talking about it and I really would just like some outside opinions. I know this is a decision we have to make, but still, some insight would be great. I wanted to post this on Facebook, but it's kind of personal and I didn't want everyone knowing.....then I thought, CAFEMOM, YES!
So, i'll start by saying we have been married for 7 years (March 9) and we have a 6 year old son and a 2 year old son. Now we're on the topic of having a third. Buuuut, there are so many pros and cons! We thought we were done with two children, so I went back to school and I will graduate in the fall and get a job. But if we have another, I will want to be a SAHM and be home with my baby for at least the first year. So instead of making more money and being able to go on vacations and stuff like that, we will now have student loans, baby bills, and still one income. My husband does make enough money for us to live, but we'll have to cut out those date night dinners every week and we'll have to learn to budget better if we want to have another child. My husband is basically begging me to go get my Mirena taken out on Monday, but I'm just having a hard time with this. I soooo want another baby, but for some reason i'm just being hesitant. I'm thinking, is it going to be difficult going from 2 to 3 kids? Will I be able to give enough attention to them all? Will we be okay financially? Am I ready for more sleepless nights? Am I going to college for nothing? Will we be as lucky to have another healthy child? Are 3 too many? I could go on and on with my questions, but I will stop now. Please, Cafemom strangers, give me some feedback!
P.S. I haven't been on Cafemom in years! Glad to be back :)