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Is it true that once a cheater, always a cheater?

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by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 6:53 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 10, 2013 at 12:35 AM
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no it is not true. i did really early in the marriage.  however we went, got help together, and on our own. we were able to work throught everything. we have now been married 30 years. 

RoseWall
by on Mar. 10, 2013 at 12:49 AM

for some reason i hope you are right. and yet your reply post made me LOL. i am curious though. do you speak from some experience at all. just wondering and not bashing at all.

Quoting GOBryan:

I disagree. I believe that if someone cheats it's because they are simply not in love and happy in their relationship. Something is definitely missing. When they find the right person and don't feel something's missing or "mature" then they will stop. 

If the person you are with cheated on you and you kept him, then it's likely to happen again because technically, you accepted him. If you broke up with him and he attempted to win you back for say, a year and then you accepted him back, there may be a chance that he won't do it again. 

People cheat due to lack of maturity and a missing ingredient so it doesn't mean they'll do it with all partners. 


Uhura
by Member on Mar. 10, 2013 at 1:31 AM
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I think so, yes. However, I think they can keep themselves from doing it, but there's always that possible impulse to cheat. I view it as an addiction of sorts.


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LisaSmock
by on Mar. 10, 2013 at 1:42 AM
Yes I think so.
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KennyPooPoo22
by on Mar. 10, 2013 at 1:53 AM
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Naw, my SO cheated on quite a few GF before I came along. He was truthfully about it and didn't try the "I would never cheat on you." bit so I trusted him more for owning up to it. He works out of state so if he did I wouldn't know, just like if I cheated he wouldn't know. Its all about trust with us, it has to be.

coupon_ash_back
by on Mar. 10, 2013 at 3:02 AM
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Yes. Always..to stay with a cheater or think otherwise is foolish. ( just MY opinion)
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 10, 2013 at 3:29 AM

I think some men, when they become Christians can put poor behavior choices (such as cheater) behind them and commit to never do it again. 

Leobaby2007
by on Mar. 10, 2013 at 4:26 AM

No. I don't believe that is the case for everyone who has cheated.

KymberleeAnn
by on Mar. 10, 2013 at 6:11 AM

I strongly agree with this.

Quoting GOBryan:

I disagree. I believe that if someone cheats it's because they are simply not in love and happy in their relationship. Something is definitely missing. When they find the right person and don't feel something's missing or "mature" then they will stop. 

If the person you are with cheated on you and you kept him, then it's likely to happen again because technically, you accepted him. If you broke up with him and he attempted to win you back for say, a year and then you accepted him back, there may be a chance that he won't do it again. 

People cheat due to lack of maturity and a missing ingredient so it doesn't mean they'll do it with all partners. 


KymberleeAnn
by on Mar. 10, 2013 at 6:13 AM

That's really wonderful! For one thing 30 years of marriage too that's really great I'm glad things worked out for you.

Quoting Anonymous:

no it is not true. i did really early in the marriage.  however we went, got help together, and on our own. we were able to work throught everything. we have now been married 30 years. 


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