By the time I came along I think my parents were a little tired. My two older siblings are 5 and 14 years old than me. They apparently had a stricter upbringing. My parents never actually punished me though. I was sent to my room once, and grounded once, however, I was a pretty good kid.
Instead of punishment, my parents always talked about how we were such good kids. When we'd go places they would compliment us on our good behavior. They would tell us how impresed people were by us. (They did this with my older siblings, too, they just also received groundings and etc...) Doing this always made me really eager to be good. So when I did do something bad, instead of receiving punishment, I would see the look of disappointment on my their faces. They weren't passing judgement, nor did it feel like they were, it was more of a, "you know better than this" kind of thing. That was all the punishment I ever needed!
As far as I know, I don't have any lingering "problems" due to this. Maybe because I was such a good kid? Even during my teenaged years the worst thing I did was being obsessed with my stupid boyfriend. On the teenaged note, we did have ONE rule: they knew they couldn't STOP us from doing whatever we wanted when they weren't around and they wouldn't judge us for it either, so the rule was we had to be honest with them. Tell them where we were, who we were with and what we were doing and etc...so if we ever needed them, they'd know where to find us. I never took part in anything like that, my sisters did, and I think that rule worked well with them, too.
Did anyone else have a similar upbringing? How did it/does it affect you now? Does anyone else parent like this?
I am pregnant with my first child and though, I like the one big honest rule, I imagine myself being the type who does punish, have rules, but also encourages good behavior at the same time.