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Sooooo sad, but how stupid can a Dad be. Do not ever have your kids near a worksite.

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STANLEY, N.C. (AP) — For Jordan Arwood, the images return in waves. A wall of dirt collapsing and burying his 6-year-old daughter and her 7-year-old cousin in a pit he was working on. Rescue workers frantically pulling the children from thick red clay. Their lifeless bodies placed in the back of an ambulance.

"When she came out of the hole she was so cold," Arwood, of Stanley, N.C., told The Associated Press in his first news media interview. "I just wanted for her to be warm. I just wanted to put my arms around her and tell her she would be safe....I promised her I'd keep her safe. I promised them I'd keep them safe and warm. I broke that promise."

The 31-year-old Arwood was operating a backhoe Sunday night in the pit when the walls caved in on the children. The bodies of the two young cousins, Chloe Jade Arwood and James Levi Caldwell, were dug out Monday morning.

Arwood is the girl's father. His parents, Nancy and Ken Caldwell, had adopted the boy, his twin sister Jazmin and 9-year-old brother Josiah. Arwood lives next to his parents and the pit was on his property.

Arwood told the AP he reached out to save the children but they were just outside his grasp. He said he dug faster and faster trying to rescue them until he couldn't breathe.

"When the wall came down, I kept grabbing what was in front of me — grabbing enough dirt, grabbing boulders. ... I wasn't going to stop until I pulled them out. But I couldn't save them," he said, sobbing.

He paused for a moment.

"I wish it was me,' he said.

Lincoln County Sheriff's Office Detective Lt. Tim Johnson said investigators were interviewing family members and neighbors about the case. When they finished, they planned to present their findings to the district attorney's office.

Investigators described the pit as 20 feet by 20 feet, with a sloped entrance leading down to the 24-foot bottom. The children were at the bottom of the pit retrieving a child-sized pickaxe when the walls fell in on them. No permits had been issued for Arwood to dig on the site.

Johnson said investigators still don't know why Arwood was digging the hole and that people have speculated that the pit was everything from a "doomsday bunker" to an underground structure for "illegal activity," such as growing marijuana.

But Arwood said he was building a rammed earth home, an ancient building method where dirt is used to shape the foundation. Arwood said he had been digging for three months.

Sheriff's deputies on Monday removed guns and a marijuana plant from Arwood's mobile home. Arwood is a felon who is not allowed to have guns. He was convicted in 2003 for possession of a controlled substance with intent to sell.

Dion Burleson, spokesman for the Denver Fire Department, which responded to collapse, said crews filled in the pit Monday.

Arwood said he didn't expect the walls to collapse. And late Tuesday afternoon, Arwood walked to the site of the pit and pointed to the spot where his daughter and James had been buried under the dirt.

He reached down and sifted the dirt between the fingers of his right hand. Then he punched the soil in frustration.

As the walls fell in, he recalled, the children were running to get away. He was within inches of grabbing his daughter's hand. But she disappeared under a surge of dirt. Now he's haunted by the memories.

"I want to wake up. I just want to wake up," he said.

Recalling the children, his eyes brighten. They were always running around together — the best of friends.

And his parents' house was filled with laughter. He taught his daughter and James how to ride four-wheelers in the backyard.

Arwood was like a big brother to James.

"How many times did I have to tell him to brush his teeth? I'll never be able to tell him again, 'Go brush your teeth, brush your hair.' That was the first thing he did in the morning," he said.

On Tuesday, friends and family in this tight-knit rural community came by to offer their condolences. They brought food to the family.

Ken Caldwell sat on a couch, surrounded by photos of his grandchildren. Nearby was a white karate suit. James is going to be buried in it. He was just a few days shy of taking a test for his orange belt.

Caldwell, who worked 34 years in a steel fabrication plant, recalled reading Tom Swift books every night to James, a bright, energetic first-grader with a big smile.

He loved his grandmother, who would tuck him in every night. "After she tucked him in, he would stick out his leg out of the covers and say, "Grandma, my foot's not covered.'"

Chloe was always running around the house and jumping in his lap.

"She's so beautiful," he said.

When he saw the children's bodies in the ambulance, he said he placed his hands on them and asked God to "bring them back."

While his prayers went unanswered, his faith is still strong — and he's going to use it to carry him through the tough times.

"You have to trust the Lord," he said. "I'm just grateful I had time to spend with my grandkids."

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 10, 2013 at 8:00 PM
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BrighteyedAsh
by Member on Apr. 10, 2013 at 8:06 PM
Poor babies. :(

What a horrible thing to have happened.

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GertieK
by Silver Member on Apr. 11, 2013 at 9:00 AM

Terrible...just terrible.  However, reacting by "never having your kids near a work site" isn't the answer either.  Such an extreme reaction.  How about watching the kids well, teaching them how to be safe, and providing some real good lessons in life for their future at a work site? 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 11, 2013 at 9:56 AM
Who tells kids to go down in a 20 x 20 x 24 pit? Stupid ones.


Quoting GertieK:

Terrible...just terrible.  However, reacting by "never having your kids near a work site" isn't the answer either.  Such an extreme reaction.  How about watching the kids well, teaching them how to be safe, and providing some real good lessons in life for their future at a work site? 


momto3B
by Bronze Member on Apr. 11, 2013 at 10:37 AM

So sad. His ridiculous need for a "doomsday" bunker, doomed his kids. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 11, 2013 at 11:02 AM
Can't you read? The alleged bunker is pure speculation, he said he was building an earthenware home.

Quoting momto3B:

So sad. His ridiculous need for a "doomsday" bunker, doomed his kids. 

BekahBrownEyes
by Member on Apr. 11, 2013 at 11:03 AM
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Wow. Very sad. :( You know this will haunt him the rest of his days.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 11, 2013 at 11:07 AM


He is also a felon and also there was speculation he wanted to grow MJ.  Not the brightest bulb on the planet for sure. 

Quoting Anonymous:

Can't you read? The alleged bunker is pure speculation, he said he was building an earthenware home.

Quoting momto3B:

So sad. His ridiculous need for a "doomsday" bunker, doomed his kids. 



diospira
by Bronze Member on Apr. 11, 2013 at 11:16 AM

Nightmarish.

I know he said he was building a rammed earth home, but such a deep hole seems unusual.You would think that there would be other signs of construction besides the hole.

momto3B
by Bronze Member on Apr. 11, 2013 at 11:19 AM

Sorry, the type man who would let his kids play on a construction site seems more in line with a doomsday bunker kind of a guy then an earthware home kind of a guy. 

We will have to wait and see. Regardless, the man has to live with the fact that the tragedy is his fault. Poor construction and poor child supervison. 


Quoting Anonymous:

Can't you read? The alleged bunker is pure speculation, he said he was building an earthenware home.

Quoting momto3B:

So sad. His ridiculous need for a "doomsday" bunker, doomed his kids. 



Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 11, 2013 at 12:40 PM

Exactly !! Speculation = assumption = nothing proven or for sure. Stories like this cause people like you to add untruths & automatically deem the dad as guilty when its only speculation. Hes not smart because they are speculating? Whats NOT smart is to speculate and deem him guilty of wanting to grow MJ. Deeming someone guilty before proven shows your bulb isnt very bright either!!!


Quoting Anonymous:


He is also a felon and also there was speculation he wanted to grow MJ.  Not the brightest bulb on the planet for sure. 

Quoting Anonymous:

Can't you read? The alleged bunker is pure speculation, he said he was building an earthenware home.

Quoting momto3B:

So sad. His ridiculous need for a "doomsday" bunker, doomed his kids. 





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