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So, dd is 9. She is in 3rd grade. She will be 10 before next school year. She was held back in kindy because they said she wasn't ready. We then spent her second year in kindy, first grade and second grade fighting to get her evaluated. She couldn't read, at all. The schools keps saying she wasn't far enough behind. In first, we moved from AL to AZ, which ended up being a blessing because we have more choices for schools. She is in a charter school that after one week told us they wanted her to be evaluated. She has an IQ of 97, but 114 for verbal.
So, yesterday I get a call from the spec. ed coordinator asking if I was OK with holding her in 3rd again next year. She has an IEP, so it isn't required by any means, but she was wondering if I was OK with that. I told her I don't know. Here's why.
She will be 10, in third grade. She will be growing boobs, possibly starting her period, and just generally starting puberty while the others in her grade will most be 8. She even checked, she is the ONLY child that would be 10 in 3rd grade. (Small school, one classroom per grade so easy to check). But, I did tell her I need to think about it. DH agrees with me, as does my mom, so the decision is fairly well made.
So, I was wondering, how many times would you hold a child back and does age play a role in that? I know for me, if she is in middle school or high school and needs to repeat a grade I would feel differentlly. But there are so many changes in this time of a girl's life and such differences in the ages of 8 and 10, that I have an issue with it. What about you?