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MY MOTHER IN LAW....AAAAHHH!!!! Total vent!

So Wednesday she gets completely pissed at me, for something that I literally had no control over and tried to explain it to her so she would calm the F down, doesn't talk to me until today and then asks me to go to the rodeo with her. UH NO I DON'T WANT TO GO ANYWERE WITH YOU! She does this all the time. She acts likes a total bitch and then like nothing happened am I'm supposed to just go with the flow. I'm sick of it and I can just hear her now taking to my husband saying " well I'll never invite her anywhere again". I know that's what she's saying because that's exactly how she is. Well GOOD! Lol.

Why do some MIL's think they can act like this and it's supposed to be ok???? Lots of times she's nice and then this, I'm so sick of it! And I have zero family of my own anywhere even remotely close. Ok I'm done
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by on Jun. 15, 2013 at 6:31 PM
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princesskt
by on Jun. 17, 2013 at 4:27 PM

 This...

Whether she takes any responsibility or not at least u will know that you talked to her in a calm manner and told her how you feel.

Quoting Angelbaby007:

Sounds like your really fed up with her behavior. I would talk to her about it. I'm sorry you're going through this with your MIL, I can imagine it must be difficult with no family of your own around. Keep your head up and try not to let her emotions affect yours. Don't make her that powerful. Next time she does it, call her out on it, nicely, and just talk about how she makes you feel. Do this in person. It will help. Best of luck. :)

 

Ellybella2617
by Member on Jun. 17, 2013 at 9:25 PM
That's exactly how I would feel! I completely agree with u! 😉

Quoting nodramamama311:

Well I can see how you'd gather that from the little bit of info you have on our nearly 6 year relationship as DIL/MIL. You are severely lacking on info though, completely at my fault though. If I wrote all of our history in one post it would be WAY too long. Lets just say she's done this kind of thing more than a handful of times and this is possibly the one and only time I've ever said no to her to going somewhere with her. Also I've always let it go and acted like her when she acts like nothing happened. People have their limits though, wouldn't you agree?



Quoting EireLass:

You 2 had a spat, she got over it and invited you to an outing. You refuse to do anything with her.

Quoting nodramamama311:

How can I be one who holds grudges when she's ALWAYS welcome in our home no matter how she acts? I NEVER speak rudely to her in person or on the phone no matter how she's treated me prior.


Quoting EireLass:

Sounds like she gets over things and you hold grudges.


Ellybella2617
by Member on Jun. 17, 2013 at 9:29 PM
Yup you tell them! It's only human to vent. And you are right, a person can only take so much before they want to explode.

Quoting nodramamama311:

Why is venting drama? I'm venting about something that happens to me at least once a month. I don't cause it. Am I not allowed to vent without someone accusing me of drama?



Quoting Zanny:

It's Ironic your Name on here is NoDramaMama...

Shellness
by on Jun. 17, 2013 at 9:34 PM

 try havgi a heart 2 heart when everything calms down. start off by telling her u love her.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Jun. 18, 2013 at 2:20 AM
My mil does this but passive aggressively thru my dh to me.. in the same room. Example "d needs to have these kids fed and in bed at this time" which would be a time he's still at work.
My mil is never happy. I've learned to have a thick skin. She huffs and puffs then stops. I don't know what it means dh says she's always has been this way. I'm thinking maybe some bi-polar. I did bring it up to her a few times. Which oddly made her like me more? Because I spoke my mind (with respect).
I think talking to her. Expressing how frustrating it is when she does that might help. Maybe let dh deal with mil for a while when she's mad or ask him how he would handle his moms behavior when she does that?
I guess I hold a grudge also for a bit. Shes called me some nasty names to my face just because I'm 2nd wife and stepmom. I've been called dh's piece off a$$ a couple times bbecause she was upset we went out on date night and did not take the kiddos.
britnic21
by New Member on Jun. 18, 2013 at 9:59 AM

i understand your pain...

Diane1223
by Member on Jun. 18, 2013 at 11:24 AM

Sorry, I hope things get better :)

lrng2havfun
by on Jun. 18, 2013 at 11:31 AM

Sounds like Bordrline Personality - Witch - research it...

aj_mom
by Member on Jun. 18, 2013 at 3:19 PM

Friday my MIL picked both my kids up from daycare so they could go swimming at her house. NBD. I get there to pick up DD (14 months) and she has cut her bangs. I was like WHAT!!! I couldn't say anything I'm making DH do it.

Why do some MILs think they can say and do what ever they want and its okay.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jun. 19, 2013 at 1:01 PM

EireLass, you have been in this group long enough to know that drama mama is ALWAYS complaining about her family, her MIL, her DH, their belives that are not hers all that... she is a lost cause.


if i was as misserable as she seems to be (due to her complaining) i would divorce and move on with my life.


Quoting nodramamama311:

I see what you're saying but I just think its wrong for her to get to act like a bitch, hang up on me sometimes, say rude things about my kids and then go away for a few days then come back and act like nothing happened, no apologies ever or anything. I'm the one who lets it go every time because I don't want there to be trouble between her and my husband. It just seems unfair when all I've ever done is be good to her and her son.

Quoting EireLass:

I don't doubt that she has done this numerous times. Personality traits are long living. But again....she does this and moves on, gets over it. You are the one holding a tight grudge against normal behaviour. Don't you think it's much healthier to get over stupid spats and move forward?

People create their own limits.

Quoting nodramamama311:

Well I can see how you'd gather that from the little bit of info you have on our nearly 6 year relationship as DIL/MIL. You are severely lacking on info though, completely at my fault though. If I wrote all of our history in one post it would be WAY too long. Lets just say she's done this kind of thing more than a handful of times and this is possibly the one and only time I've ever said no to her to going somewhere with her. Also I've always let it go and acted like her when she acts like nothing happened. People have their limits though, wouldn't you agree?

Quoting EireLass:

You 2 had a spat, she got over it and invited you to an outing. You refuse to do anything with her.

Quoting nodramamama311:

How can I be one who holds grudges when she's ALWAYS welcome in our home no matter how she acts? I NEVER speak rudely to her in person or on the phone no matter how she's treated me prior.


Quoting EireLass:

Sounds like she gets over things and you hold grudges.




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