I want to know why I cant have fun with my children!!!! They are 4 and 2 and both girls. We just moved, and they are constantly fighting (this was happening before we moved). Story of my life - everyday I plan something fun. I thought today we would go to this really big park that is near us to get them out of the house to stop fighting for a little while.. What happens - they ACT UP get in trouble and I have to CANCEL THE FUN. Seriously !! I just want to enjoy my children and have fun with them and let them have fun, but they ALWAYS end up misbehaving. I dont think that they should be rewarded with a fun activity when they misbehave, I think they should have to earn it. WHAT CAN I DO?? I also think that part of the misbehavior and fighting is because we don't go anywhere very often because they are misbehaving. Any ideas?