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ugh! hated this hospital UPDATE!!

Posted by on Jul. 15, 2013 at 7:06 AM
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On Thursday night my 19 year old baby sister's water broke at 11pm we were super excited she rushed to the hospital, when she arrived she was told that her water had fecal matter in it and that her baby had deficated in the womb. She was very sick to her stomach and asked for meds they told her no.

She was 2 cm dilated like she had been for 2 Weeks so the Dr told all of us to go home we were not needed and to return in the morning that she needed rest. He hadnt even seen her yet.

We went home until 8 am when we returned she was 5 cm with an epidural and still in pain lots of pain she couldnt even talk. At around 11 am she developed fever 103.6 they gave her antibiotics still refused nausea meds.

At noon she was 7 cm screaming in pain cant even put a sentence together, it's burning not labor her catheter! Nurses say its normal and give her a shot of Demerol in the leg and finally give her nausea meds in her iv. At 1 they turn off her epidural completely.

at 3:00pm she is 9 cm and wanting to push they get the Dr Dr tells her baby doesnt want to drop into the birthcanal. He tells her ”you have to push him into the birthcanal then out”.

This was why my mom had an emergency c-sec with my older sister, my sister is terrified crying, telling Dr give me a c-sec. He says no I wont do that lets start pushing.

For 2 hrs she pushed throwing up with every push finally he dropped into her canal, she asked for an episiotomy for him to cut her he said ”no u dont know its better to tear naturally” so she tore top and bottom. Not having the epidural for 4 hrs she felt everything! at 520 pm he finally came out. Her son was 8lbs 14 Oz 20 in long and was on oxygen for awhile she didnt get to hol him until like midnight.

At the end of everything she is so swollen the nurses told her she was more swollen then anyone ever it wasnt normal. She cant walk normal cause she cant close her legs. Her legs are double the size and extremely painful, her back is so bad she cant sleep comfortably.

Please tell me did this hosp do everything right? I hated seeing her like this she was and is so miserable she is 5 feet btw. I love her like crazy and this all made me mad. My Dr said if I had showed up with fecal matter in my water it would have been an emergency c-sec. What do yall think? Ive had 3 kids by the way and only once my epidural didnt work it was in wrong they actually messed up something my right leg still goes numb.

Dr only saw her once when she delivered.

Sorry for mistakes phone is acting up.

Can a Dr refuse a pricedure when he works for you? (the c-sec and the episiotomy)

UPDATE!!!
My sister is still miserable (physically) but is doing very well with the baby. I never told my sister about malpractice or mistakes nothing I was waiting. My sister is currently not speaking to me, my mother either so my last update was 3 days ago. Thank you all so much for your replies I hope for no lasting effects for either mama or baby. I'm sure he is a sweetheart.
by on Jul. 15, 2013 at 7:06 AM
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nurse1997
by Silver Member on Jul. 15, 2013 at 7:27 AM

Every doctor is different and its best for me not to comment - Every labor is different and every woman is different hope she feels better !

PITAmom1023
by on Jul. 15, 2013 at 7:31 AM
One of her nurses says he was wrong I am just livid

Quoting nurse1997:

Every doctor is different and its best for me not to comment - Every labor is different and every woman is different hope she feels better !

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Jul. 15, 2013 at 8:29 AM
Fecal matter in the amniotic fluid does not warrant a c section.
PITAmom1023
by on Jul. 15, 2013 at 11:47 AM
I understand that. My Dr said she would im talking abt baby not dropping

Quoting Anonymous:

Fecal matter in the amniotic fluid does not warrant a c section.
NDADanceMom
by on Jul. 15, 2013 at 12:39 PM
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I find that hard to believe.  Who does that?  As a teacher I dont throw other teachers under the bus to parents.  I go to the principal.  the nurse should not have said that.  

Its really hard to know what happened.  Where was her husband?  My husband knows what I need and want in labor and wouldnt let things happen.  As far as the episiotomy i never get them.  It is better to avoid them.  I agree with him on that, tearing top to bottom usually only happens when there is an episiotomy. 

Quoting PITAmom1023:

One of her nurses says he was wrong I am just livid

Quoting nurse1997:

Every doctor is different and its best for me not to comment - Every labor is different and every woman is different hope she feels better !


PITAmom1023
by on Jul. 15, 2013 at 8:59 PM
Whether or not the Dr or anyone else believes an episiotomy is best is up to no one but the patient.

As for everything said or done I was right there with her the entire time. I heard everything. The nurse personally told us she did not like the Dr or the hospital for many of the reasons we were upset abt

My sister isnt married my mom and I were with her. We tried telling them and so did my sister they refused everything.


Quoting NDADanceMom:

I find that hard to believe.  Who does that?  As a teacher I dont throw other teachers under the bus to parents.  I go to the principal.  the nurse should not have said that.  

Its really hard to know what happened.  Where was her husband?  My husband knows what I need and want in labor and wouldnt let things happen.  As far as the episiotomy i never get them.  It is better to avoid them.  I agree with him on that, tearing top to bottom usually only happens when there is an episiotomy. 

Quoting PITAmom1023:

One of her nurses says he was wrong I am just livid



Quoting nurse1997:

Every doctor is different and its best for me not to comment - Every labor is different and every woman is different hope she feels better !


midjet117
by on Jul. 15, 2013 at 9:34 PM

 I honestly dont know. I'm not a nurse or a doctor

jobseeker
by Bronze Member on Jul. 16, 2013 at 12:28 AM

I am not a nurse, but I worked in ob offices for many years in the business end.  Every Dr has his/her own policies and philosophies.  I have had many conversations regarding delivery room nightmares (in my job I have to justify charges to insurance companies).  Fecal matter does not equal c section unless other criteria are mt.  Many docs do not like episiotomies because they cause scarring that might cause problems with subsequent deliveries.  Almost every OB I have ever worked with would rather not do a C on a woman under 25 because it weakens the uterine wall and makes subsequent pregnancies dangerous.  your sister being so young was a red flag.  The c's I have seen on very young women were patients that were VERY small framed.   All in all it sounds like you did not see her regular doctor.  Was this a county hospital or was it her regular one.  

All in all it sounds like she had a pretty bad experience.  I wish her well, and take care of her.  

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 16, 2013 at 2:02 AM

When my water broke with my first DD there was fecal matter in it. They did not admit me & my daughter died that night in my womb. It was too painful to even consult an attorney, no amount of money would bring her back, Your sister was not treated right, but she has her child and that is what matters. I would call the director of the hospital and ask for a formal review fo this case.

PITAmom1023
by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 11:11 AM
Im talking abt baby dropping I was abt to wheeled into surgery cause m son wouldnt drop she was forced to push.

Her birthplan included an episiotomy Dr had said ok til the moment of. She was chosing and episiotomy based on ppl she spoke to and listened to their experience.


Quoting jobseeker:

I am not a nurse, but I worked in ob offices for many years in the business end.  Every Dr has his/her own policies and philosophies.  I have had many conversations regarding delivery room nightmares (in my job I have to justify charges to insurance companies).  Fecal matter does not equal c section unless other criteria are mt.  Many docs do not like episiotomies because they cause scarring that might cause problems with subsequent deliveries.  Almost every OB I have ever worked with would rather not do a C on a woman under 25 because it weakens the uterine wall and makes subsequent pregnancies dangerous.  your sister being so young was a red flag.  The c's I have seen on very young women were patients that were VERY small framed.   All in all it sounds like you did not see her regular doctor.  Was this a county hospital or was it her regular one.  

All in all it sounds like she had a pretty bad experience.  I wish her well, and take care of her.  

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