I must be a horrible mother for keeping track of my children!!! ETA
I went to the pool with my 2 and 4 year old by myself for the first time. A little bit about them - They dont listen ever, I hate going anywhere by myself with them because it ends up being stressful and not fun. My 4 year old likes to take off and go wherever she wants regardless of what you say and if you try to explain she screams. (I do discipline for this - time outs taking toys away, and yes spanking etc. I keep doing it even though it doesn't work).
Well, we were leaving the pool and I called out to my 4 year old several times before she got out of the pool, in the locker room I had to say her name several time and loudly because sometimes she is like a wall and ignores me completely. I called out one time loudly because I couldn't see her (like I said she likes to take off and keep in mind I have a 2 year old with me as well) She finally ansered me and I told her to come back to me and STAY BY ME in a FIRM voice (I didn't consider it yelling). Also, my children are loud anyway, we used to live in them iddle of nowhere with no neighbors so loudness didn't matter at least at home.
This lady was walking out, and she looks at me and says "that is way too much yelling, really, there are other people here" OK, so I must be a horrible mother because I am calling out to my kids to make sure they are near!!! REALLY!! I am so confused as to why she thought too much yelling, me disciplining to keep my 4 year old near me or my kids yelling because they are having fun? Which one? I am still confused and just REALLY need to vent.
What is your take?
ETA - I am getting a lot of responses about not yelling. As I said above. I was CALLING out to my 4 year old and I used a FIRM voice. I was NOT yelliing, hence why I am confused. Yelling to me is with anger and screaming so loud you lose your voice. That is yelling. I had no anger and I was being very FIRM in what I expected of her.