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Parents Hire $400-an-Hour Playdate Consultants to Teach Their Kids How to Play?!

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Parents Hire $400-an-Hour Playdate Consultants to Teach Their Kids How to Play

by Julie Ryan Evans

kids coloringWell people, here it is -- proof that parents have officially gone off the deep end when it comes to over-involvement in their kids' lives. Parents are now hiring playdate consultants to teach their kids how to properly play with other kids.

I wish I was making this up, but it's true. According to the New York Post, moms and dads in New York are paying $400 an hour for an expert to come in and help their child be the best little socializer he or she can be.

Suzanne Rheault, CEO of Aristotle Circle, which provides such services, told the paper:

Some kids need a little bit more work at learning how to play. Sometimes [parents] hear from our experts that there are some areas to improve.

Forget about letting them figure things out on their own and growing from it, let's just get an expert to butt in and orchestrate the crayon sharing. The reason they hire them is perhaps even sadder -- because they're being prepped and molded to get into "the right" preschools with a schedule full of classes and activities, and they have no time to just be kids.

So much pressure. So young. No wonder they don't know how to play. It's heartbreaking really.

Before we climb too far up on our outraged high horses though, we really do have to take a look at our own approach to parenting. While I could never afford $400 an hour for something as crazy as this, my husband and I do what we can to give our children a "leg up" or whatever you want to call it when we can. When my son was chosen for an all-star baseball team, we coughed up the cash for a personal coach to work with him a couple of times. We send our kids to a private school because we think it's better for them. We drive all over creation to various sports and activities and playdates because we want them to be well rounded. Who's to say what we'd do if we had all sorts of extra cash? It's easy to say "I'd never" when you know you can't, but when you can, things can change.

In general, parents do so much more to "help" our kids these day than to just send them out the front door and let them figure life out until the street lights come on than our parents ever did. So while $400 playdate tutors sound ridiculous, it's really relative and perhaps just on the extreme end of what most parents today do for (or to) kids today.

Would you ever hire a playdate tutor? What things do you do to give your kids a leg up?

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by Anonymous on Jul. 23, 2013 at 9:20 AM
Idiots. Just have playdates and they learn to play. Or they play with siblngs. People overthink parenting today. So dumb.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jul. 23, 2013 at 9:28 AM

must be nice to have that kinda money to toss away..... I should get that job, too. I can fake it for $400 and pretend I know more than anyone else does LOL

dingysfamily
by Suzi on Jul. 23, 2013 at 9:56 AM

What, the parents can't teach their kids how to play nice?  Some parents just shouldn't be parents in the first place!!!  Let your kids interact with other kids and when a problem arises, if they can't settle it on their own,  you step in & help them ... that's how a parent teaches & parents!!!

abecee
by on Jul. 23, 2013 at 1:22 PM

I seem to have been successful with teaching my own.  Where do I sign up for this kind of job?

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by Head Admin on Jul. 23, 2013 at 1:45 PM

That was actually my response, too, lol.


Quoting abecee:

I seem to have been successful with teaching my own.  Where do I sign up for this kind of job?



blue123244
by on Jul. 23, 2013 at 1:45 PM

wow - unless your child has a social disability this is fucking nuts - 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jul. 23, 2013 at 1:55 PM

some people have more money than sense

STVUstudent
by on Jul. 24, 2013 at 8:33 AM

we send our kids to private school, and we have them in different activities- dance, gymnastics, baseball, basketball... but before I spent money on a playdate coach, i would spend it on a therapist so I could amyby figure out why my kid can't play...

LDavis33
by Member on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:27 AM
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Craziness.  How are these kids supposed to grow and develop normally when adults and "experts" are constantly interfering?

This is how I give my son a "leg up".  I teach him to be self-reliant.  I teach him to be confident.  I teach him to be kind.  I teach him to stand up for himself and for others.  


illinoismommy83
by on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:59 AM

Hiring a tutor to get a child into a top school = childhood lost?

I realize I'm in the minority, but what is so wrong with valuing education? Kids don't need to play 16 hours a day to have a childhood. A strong educational foundation gives them a foot in the door to a brighter future.

America seems to be the rare, odd country who values extended free time for children over education. I wouldn't hire a playdate tutor, but I'd gladly put my 2 year old in a daycare who had a strict learning schedule if I could find one around here. My children are on the college track, not the fast food worker track. They need to focus on education.

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