I'm going through a divorce. We've only been married over a year. I know the judgments I receive are that it's so soon. Especially because our daughter isn't even a year yet.
But my husband lied repeatedly to me. He grew close to a female coworker, whom I never met to this day. I felt my husband grow distant. I had my suspicions. And after I checked the phone records, I had seen they had been sending each other pics around 2 am and almost every hour he was texting her. He claimed she had stomach cancer and she was sending him pics of her X rays.
More lies were discovered. She gave him. ntimate sticky notes that said "Push me up against a wall and kiss me like you mean it" as well as "I love you! Can't wait to see you Saturday." I found the notes in his underwear drawer. He claimed she had given him the notes because she was embarrassed to give them to a coworker she had a crush on. I didn't believe it. Then a friend sent me a picture of him at that girl's house. That girl posted it on her Facebook page, which she blocked me from so I couldn't see anything on her page. She had been calling my husband her bff. It turns out I found out on my college graduation when he asked if he could go out with a friend from high school, he had partied with her. I have pics of them at a bar that a friend sent me.
After I signed the divorce papers the week of father's day, he took the other girl out that same weekend and has been out with her ever since.
What is sick is she has the same name as me and they both claim to be friends.
I was willing to do counseling with him after we had separated for a few days. But during the time apart, I found out he had lied to me again about his where he was. He claimed to be at a car wash at around 1 am after claiming he had fallen asleep at the apartment we had. He cancelled our counseling session after I questioned his whereabouts
It was embarrasing that our marriage didn't last. I blamed myself at first but realized he messed it all up. He didn't uphold his commitments and crossed many boundaries. It was also embarrasing to see that he moved on. It was also infuriating. I wanted to believe he wouldn't cheat but all the evidence leads to it and he disrespected me by lying and breaking our trust.
This divorce has me with up days and down days. I wanted my daughter to have a family sense in her life and all I can pray now is she understands why I left. Why would I spend the rest of my life with someone who can't change and someone who continues to lie to me? Even if he didn't cheat, which I find hard to believe, he crossed too many boundaries.