More info... sd's dad and I got married 10 years ago. We haven't had much of a relationship for the past 4 years. She lives 900 miles away, we've never had the money to go down there, and ex's had a job so she couldn't come here. Its always been in my dh's hands to keep a relationship, I pushed it for years and it just caused fights. SD is now 20 and my dd is 13, ask either of them and they are sisters, so I'm happy about that, I just wish I knew where I stand. I dont want to ask her, I just don't feel right doing that. Dh should, but won't, he just says I'm grandma... Also I'm 33 dh is 45 so I feel too young! Lol
We want a close relationship with her now more than ever, so I know I will be playing a big role in their lives. We are even thinking about moving!