Single moms -- I am prepared to be bashed, but I have a serious question.
Let me start this by saying that I understand that things don't always go as we planned. Marriages end, men run from responsibilities, sometimes they die or are incarcerated. My question is this; Why are there so many complaints about child support? Why are there so many who intentionally get pregnant by men who are not their husbands? Why is marital commitment not important to so many of you anymore? If marriage was not important, the Gay community would not be working so hard to get the right to marry, right? It seems gay couples are more willing to commit and be responsible parents than straight women who take having children for granted.
There are too many forms of contraception on the market today, many available at your local drug store for there to be THIS many children born to single mothers. For those who say that their religion does not allow for birth control; that is an argument of convenience because your religion also does not allow for sex outside of marriage, right? For those who argue that the government is defunding organizations like Planned Parenthood that supplies low cost contraception; I have seen this population firsthand. I cannot give sympathy to your inability to pay for your depo shot when you come in with an I Phone a sleeve of tattoos. You find a way to pay for what is important. If someone else is paying for those things for you, then you can get them to pay for your depo. OR use the money you save on phones and tattoos and pay for it yourself. The point is that everyone finds the money to pay for things that are important. Even at $500, depo is less expensive than pregnancy and raising a child. An $1100 bill for an IUD can prevent pregnancy for up to 3-5 years.
Not just here on CM, but everyday, I see single mothers struggling financially and personally with single parenthood.. If this is your choice, then stop bellyaching. WOMAN UP and do what you have to do. If this is not what you want then PREVENT FUTURE PREGNANCIES! Teach your sisters and friends how to prevent pregnancies. Do not have children until you are mentally, emotionally and financially prepared to raise these children! Insist on marriage! There are LEGAL protections you are entitled to if you are married that you are NOT otherwise.
Finally if you ARE a single mother, stop looking for your next sexual partner and be a mother! Clubbing and partying will have to wait! You have a small person who is counting on you. Your responsiblilies are to prepare yourself to provide for yourself and your little ones. Yes, ou should have friends and an outlet for support, but you need to protect your children from people who could hurt them, and exposing them to new men puts them in danger. you should know them for at least 6 months and know their character before you allow anyone near your children.
Let the bashing begin.