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Would you take your child out of school for this?

Posted by on Sep. 8, 2013 at 9:41 AM
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Dad Pulls 7-Year-Old Out of School Because They Don't Approve of Her Hair

by Mary Fischer

Tiana Parker

A 7-year-old girl in Tulsa was just forced to switch to a new school, all because the one she originally attended didn't approve of her hairstyle.

Tiana Parker's dreadlocks got her sent home from Deborah Brown Community School -- because they were in violation of the school's dress code. The rules state that "hairstyles such as dreadlocks, afros, mohawks, and other faddish styles are unacceptable."

Officials at the school told her father, Terrance Parker, that she did not look presentable, and said they thought her hair might be a distraction from the atmosphere they're trying to achieve.

And instead of changing Tiana's hair to conform to the dress code, Terrance pulled her out of her classroom and enrolled her in another school where her hair isn't an issue at all.

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After I saw this video of this poor little girl in tears because her original school did not like her hair -- I couldn't be more behind her dad's decision to move her.


The poor thing! Don't you feel absolutely horrible for her? Shame on that school for leaving a beautiful little girl in tears -- but major props to her dad for standing up for her and not giving in to this stupid rule.

Can you blame him for wanting to switch her to a school where she feels accepted for who she is, versus sending her off to a place where she's constantly reminded that they don't approve of her appearance? I certainly wouldn't want my kid attending a school where he's judged on the way he looks, and where he knows people are constantly scrutinizing his hair, clothes, shoes -- whatever.

By moving Tiana to a new school, her father is teaching her that she shouldn't have to change the way she looks in order to fit in or please anyone -- which is such an important lesson for kids of any age, especially impressionable young girls. Her dad is reminding her that she's beautiful just the way she is, and that she should never have to change to accommodate other people's standards.

Hopefully this sweet little girl won't have to deal with anything like this happening again, and will always remember to stay true to herself, just like her daddy taught her.

Would you take your child out of school in this situation, or conform to the dress code?

by on Sep. 8, 2013 at 9:41 AM
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by Member on Sep. 8, 2013 at 9:44 AM
Yes. But I also wouldnt have my child's hair in dreads. They would've had to shave her head to achieve what the school wanted.

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by Anonymous 1 on Sep. 8, 2013 at 11:21 AM
My child would abide by the dress code.
by on Sep. 8, 2013 at 11:31 AM
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I really don't see how a hair style is distracting. At all. It is No different than girls getting extension or wearing wigs or getting a weave.
by on Sep. 8, 2013 at 12:55 PM

They amended their school policy, which they have every right to do. There is no difference IMO between this and if they banned a certtain  type of clothing that a kid liked to wear. They have two choices, to follow the policy or go to another school,. Getting really tired of seeing this girl paraded all over the net as some kind of  targeted victim. is that what they want her to feel like?

by Member on Sep. 8, 2013 at 1:57 PM
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For dreads?  HELL YES. Those things take time to develop and maintain!!

by on Sep. 8, 2013 at 2:06 PM
Ya I would be suing the school. Some school rules don't make any sense how can they decide how they want kids hair to be f that! What happened to this is a free country now we can't do whatever the hell we want with our kids hair! That's total bullshit! I have 3 boys & if my son wants a Mohawk then why not? Doesn't every little boy go through their own phases?
by on Sep. 8, 2013 at 3:00 PM
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Nope, If the hairstyle was an issue the family should have never enrolled her in that school to begin with.

There are always dress codes, in every job and in every school.

by on Sep. 8, 2013 at 4:32 PM
I feel so bad for her.some of the rules that they set are just completely ridiculous a hair style is not something that I find distracting I can understand wearing a uniform or other specified clothing because some of it can be obscene and sloppy looking.
by Anonymous 2 on Sep. 8, 2013 at 8:39 PM
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I think dress code policy's that dictate hair are absolutely ridiculous! You can't change your hair when you get home from school, so these type of rules carry over into the rest of your life.
Schools shouldn't have any control over your life outside.
by on Sep. 8, 2013 at 8:44 PM
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Absolutely. The poor kid was crying and clearly miserable. That would be like if my daughter's school said she couldn't have a ponytail. That's just ridiculous. Dreadlocks aren't faddish.
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