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Revenge Websites Should Make Us All Think Twice About Sending Naughty Pics

Posted by on Sep. 13, 2013 at 10:33 AM
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Revenge Websites Should Make Us All Think Twice About Sending Naughty Pics

by Jenny Erikson 

Lawmakers in California want to make revenge porn illegal. What’s revenge porn, you ask? If it sounds salacious, that’s because it is. Revenge porn is when a lover scorned publicizes all those sexy selfies you sent back when you were too busy seeing stars to see reality.

In other (more boring) words, revenge porn is the “sharing [of] nude photos or videos of a former significant other or love interest with the intent to embarrass them after breaking up.” And in today’s social media world, it’s becoming increasingly common.

If passed into law, jerks that post naked images of their exes (or anyone else) could be charged with a misdemeanor, and punished by up to six months in jail and a $1,000 fine. The key wording of the bill states that the material must have been shared “with the intent to cause serious emotional distress.”

Side note: I’ve done a boudoir photo shoot before. Those pics are currently in the possession of my ex. I probably wouldn’t press charges if he leaked them, because dayum! I looked super hawt thanks to MAC, an expert photographer, and Photoshop.

Anyway. While I agree that guys that try to slut shame their ex-girlfriends are icky and slimy and don’t make you question at all why that relationship didn’t work out, are they really criminals?

Ladies, here’s a piece of advice -- never hit send on anything that you wouldn’t mind the world seeing. Anything. You may think it’s totally private, but you’re forgetting one very important variable -- the recipient. You can’t control the person on the other end of your communication, and once you put something out there, it’s out there. Maybe only that one person will see it, or maybe a million will. Always assume a million.

So if you’re going to voluntarily send your squeeze some sexy pics, make sure they’re actually sexy and not just slutty. That way if they ever become public, you can roll your eyes and say, “Well that’s unfortunate; those were meant for his eyes only. But I do look pretty awesome, right?”

Because there are a lot of jerks out there, and law or no law, they will continue to be jerks that do jerky things. The best thing you can do is protect yourself. There’s only one way to definitively keep provocative nude photos of you from showing up on the Internet someday. Don’t take any.

Do you think the proposed law will help crack down on revenge porn?

by on Sep. 13, 2013 at 10:33 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Sep. 13, 2013 at 4:56 PM

People need to be smart.

There is nothing wrong with sharing nude photos as long as it's someone you can truly trust.

My ex has hundreds of nudes of me..... and has never done anything cruel after we broke up because he is a good person.

Some women are just sluts and give photos to any asshole that comes along instead of waiting for a relationship to blossom into something long term and trusting.

Okie-chick
by on Sep. 14, 2013 at 2:39 AM
The only person I send pics like that to is my husband. And he's not stupid :)
nicolee0821
by on Sep. 14, 2013 at 8:12 AM
I love revenge porn. I don't think it should be illegal. It's a repercussion of your actions, why get the law involved over something so minuscule? I agree that blasting someone's nudes all over the Internet is petty, but searching for legal punishment because of it is even more petty.
ReadWriteLuv
by Casey on Sep. 14, 2013 at 9:06 AM

Not if people use it to destroy your life, harrass and stalk you, blackmail you, or make you lose your career.

Quoting nicolee0821:

I love revenge porn. I don't think it should be illegal. It's a repercussion of your actions, why get the law involved over something so minuscule? I agree that blasting someone's nudes all over the Internet is petty, but searching for legal punishment because of it is even more petty.


ReadWriteLuv
by Casey on Sep. 14, 2013 at 9:08 AM

I'm always shocked to learn how so few people here on CM don't realize that any time you post a pic here, it's not private. Any time you reply to a thread, where someone else has posted a pic, if you Google search your screen name, those pics will come up. In a different group they are always doing booty and booby contests. SURPRISE! Those pics go straight to Google!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Sep. 14, 2013 at 9:10 AM

I think if you're stupid enough to send someone racy pics of yourself, you should expect that there's a chance you will be exposed. Not just by the person you sent the pics to, but glitches happen ALL the time. It's the internet ffs. Once you put it out there, it's out there. No matter how much you try to remove, delete or clean up, your image is out there.

This isn't an issue I have to worry abou personally. I have never and never will send someone any racy pics of myself. Ever.

adi29
by on Sep. 15, 2013 at 10:25 AM
Wow
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