I have a best friend for 15 years now. We had our moments where we would not talk for some time, but then link right back up. We went to different schools after middle school and that is why there have been some gaps.
For the past few years (not exactly sure for how long though), we have been speaking without any interruptions. She was there while I was pregnant and I was there while she was dating, then got married. She went through a tough time and missed my baby shower. She did not say anything to me until the following month, when I gave birth. I could not speak to her or see her. How did I even know she was going through something with her husband at the time when she did not contact me at all. Right after I gave birth I was in no condition to speak about her issues. I feel she should had told me right away. I was not just some associate of hers.
Months went by until I finally let her in because it was time we let this all pass and reconnect. She needed to meet my baby and I did miss her. It was too long and we have known each other for many years. We spoke and hung out and kept connected ever since (Jan 2012). Well, we never really did anything or bought anything for each other on our birthdays, but I figured she would have got something for my daughter since she completely missed my baby shower and her birth. I cannot remember what happened for her birthday last year, but she did not even contact me for her birthday this year. We met up after my daughter's birthday passed and she said she was just so busy, but still, she did not even bring a gift. My birthday passed and she didn't even send a text (an acknowledgement would have been nice at least) so I just didn't even bother saying anything to her on her birthday, which is the day after mine. She is inviting me to her other friends' home Saturday to have a play date for her birthday, but I just don't feel right about it. I feel everything is kind of revolving around this other friend of hers that she hasn't even know for as long as me. I'm pretty sure she even bought that other friends' daughter a gift for her birthday.
I guess I just feel a bit badly and feel I should talk to her about all this since it will just linger in my mind, but I don't know. I don't feel I am taking it overboard and I honestly don't know if I can hold it in for too much longer.