I watch a friend's son after school during the week. He is picked up after supper. We will call her son Sam. Sam doesn't really have any respect for other people's property. He has broken things that belong to my husband and I, my kids' toys, taken things that my husband has left out and lost them. He just won't listen when we tell him to leave something alone or be careful. At seven years old, I don't feel that I should have to follow his every move like a toddler. The last straw was when he broke my son's brand new toy that he got for his birthday by throwing it against a tree as hard as he could over and over. I ran outside when I heard my son screaming for him to stop. He just would not stop until I went out and yelled for him to cut it out. I told Sam, "from this moment on, you are not allowed to play with any toys at my house that don't belong to you. Someday, when you can respect other people's things, maybe we can try again."
Later, I told his mother, my friend, what happened. I expected her to feel bad that he broke the toy. Instead, she told me that she expected my children to either share their toys or not play with them in front of her son. She got bent out of shape when I said that I was not going to keep my children from playing with their own toys after school, the only time during the week that they could play with them. She said that I was teaching them to be selfish.
They are 7,7, and 9, playing in our fenced in back yard. I should not have to sit outside with them.