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Teen Deemed Too 'Immature' for Abortion -- But Not to Have a Baby!?

Posted by on Oct. 10, 2013 at 8:17 AM
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Teen Deemed Too 'Immature' for Abortion -- But Not to Have a Baby!

by Kiri Blakeley

A Nebraska teenager has been deemed too immature to get an abortion. Let that sink in for a minute. Nebraska is one of several states that requires girls under the age of consent to get parental permission before they can have an abortion. The problem is that the teen doesn't have parents. She's in foster care and was a ward of the state. So a judge had to determine if she got her abortion or not. The teen reportedly testified that she didn't feel ready to be a mother, wasn't financially stable, and felt she wasn't mature enough to be the mom she wanted to be right then. The court agreed she was immature -- but not enough to raise a baby on her own. Just enough to not decide for herself if she wants an abortion! Holy convoluted logic!

The unnamed teen was reportedly taken from her parents due to neglect and abuse. She was living with a strict religious foster family and was worried about telling them about the pregnancy. So the state took over -- and had to decide whether or not she could have an abortion.

The judge asked her if she understood that an abortion would kill the fetus. Yes, she understood. He asked if she still wanted an abortion. Yes, she said, she did.

So the court made this jaw-droppingly bizarre decision: It said that because the teen was living with a foster family and was financially dependent on them, and she had never had any work experience, she was not mature enough to make a decision about an abortion.

But apparently this sounds like a fine candidate to have a baby! Perhaps the court didn't realize that denying an abortion equals having a baby?

This ludicrous decision actually went through two more courts, including the state Supreme Court, both of which agreed with the first ludicrous decision.

Because the girl is underage, her lawyer wouldn't give her name or say whether the girl ended up having the baby or getting an abortion elsewhere.

But she also says that this is hardly an isolated incident.

Sure, you can say the girl should have the baby and give it up for adoption. Easy for you to say, not being in her position.

Easy for the courts to say, not being in her position. Not having their daughter in that position. Easy to say, don't have sex. You don't know if she was raped. Birth control? Could have failed.

But also could be a loved-starved teen doing what teens all over the world regularly do -- have sex.

But what we do know is that somewhere out there, a 16-year-old girl who was abused and neglected and stated that she was not ready to be a parent and could not support a baby -- might now have a child. Sound good to anyone?

Do you agree with this decision?

by on Oct. 10, 2013 at 8:17 AM
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BL2010
by Bronze Member on Oct. 10, 2013 at 8:20 AM
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No, I don't agree at all! That is the most ridiculous statement I have heard. It would be interesting to know what has happened to the young girl and this baby.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 10, 2013 at 8:23 AM
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This girl should be able to have an abortion like anyone else is free to choose.
This child is doomed.
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AiLi
by Member on Oct. 10, 2013 at 9:03 AM
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I don't agree with this at all.  Seriously, she knew the consequences of getting an abortion as in it killing the fetus.  In my opinion, she had a very mature argument against having the baby and that was the fact that she was young, had no job, and wasn't ready to be a mother.   As much as anti-abortion people claim they are protecting the lives of the innocent fetus, the fact of the matter is that this child might have to bring another child into the world and the baby isn't going to have the best life at all.  Deities forbid something actually happen and the child gets hurt.  I think the judge/ courts ruled on personal emotions they have as opposed to truly thinking of the child's best interest.

Mommabird123
by on Oct. 10, 2013 at 2:38 PM

I think this is absolutely awful.  

catlyn118
by on Oct. 10, 2013 at 2:53 PM
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I agree with the judge. An abortion is too final. Later on, when she's more grown up and could understand more exactly what an abortion does....it would be too late then. No way to go back and change her mind.

Let the baby mature and be born. She can decide then if she wants to be a mother or not.

caligirl7613
by Member on Oct. 10, 2013 at 3:01 PM
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i wonder how these judges, foster system etc would feel if it ever came out this young lady harmed herself or that baby once it was born. more than likely they would find a way to blame her entirely like well what kind of mother harms a child..well the kind who was unprepared, didnt want the child and was forced to have it. that kind. poor girl. like she has not had enough trauma in her life already
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jaccib88
by on Oct. 10, 2013 at 3:02 PM
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So we don't want teenage girls having babies but we don't give them the options that girls who are of age would have and then we bitch about all those young moms who end up on public assistance. And then the cycle stars all over again when those young moms who admittedly don't know what their doing display poor judgment and wind up endangering or neglecting the baby. Smh. Do we just need something to complain about?
Saracide
by on Oct. 10, 2013 at 3:16 PM

This disgusts me... -.-

ashwee356
by on Oct. 10, 2013 at 3:26 PM

Wow. She should be able to get an abortion. Obviously not an optimal situation for a baby.

JordansGenius
by on Oct. 10, 2013 at 3:30 PM

I wonder if the argument is this...

That she is too young to deal with the psychological impact that lies with the absolute finality in terminating a viable pregnancy.

If this young woman was abused by the ones she should have trusted most, there will one day be the revelation that due to such, she failed to exhibit "attachment" and the capacity to foster a "nurturing" aspect.  One that she may indeed learn later in life.

I think the aspect of possible "Regret" lies heavily in the minds of those seeking to protect the young woman in question, be it by either side, and not only limited to the unborn child.

Will this young woman be able to fully process, without further hindrance to overall recovery, the finality in which exists ~ particularly from a womans'/mothers' perspective?

However, one must then wonder the possible repercussions associated with possible trauma from actual childbirth.  How would this effect her in the long term?  Would actual labor & delivery be the proverbial "Straw That Broke The Camel's Back"?  Though I do understand provisions (may) be offered to facilitate a relationship between mother and child, as opposed to the actual termination of parental rights.

I am thinking that by the court's perspective, to block an actual abortion may perhaps be what in fact offers this young woman a "choice" in the long term.

The complete lack of parental obligation ~ as well as ability of.

Just a perspective.

Signed,

Pro-Choice

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