I have kept up Appearances for my family for many years. They know I hate him. They know I have nothing to do with him. But I do go to holidays and all family functions even if he's there but we do not speak and he does not come near my child.
But now I'm pregnant with a girl and my fears of him even looking at my child just disgusts me and my husband. And my baby girl cousins are getting to the age of maturity where I don't want them to become a victim.
I really feel like I need to tell their mother and at this point I really feel like I need to tell my family because I'm sick of him walking around like he's done nothing wrong and my family always questioning me and telling me I need to get over my hate against him. They just think I hate him because he was an alcoholic who has a terrible temper.
I just know it's going to rip my family apart. If this happened to your daughter, granddaughter, niece and so on would you want to know or would you be mad that the family was destroyed because of it?
Let me add my family is very close and everything in our lives revolve around each other so this would just destroy everything.
Am i selfish for wanting him to have to deal with what he did instead of looking at me telling me it was my fault and I caused it?
Sorry for some of the spelling and grammatical mistakes I'm mobile.
I'm going to try and sit down and do it sometime this week.