I'm not joking, this is real. I have been married for more than 20 years and for most of that time I"m lucky if we make love two times a year. No one in my life knows this and it's driving me insane. The past couple of years it's been even worse (didn't think it was possible). My husband is a little older and he has trouble with erections now, won't see a doctor, won't talk about it. Anyone else living like this? Any ideas on how to add a little spice to our lives?