My 16yo has always been a major hellcat and has given my husband and me more grief than we care to remember, but in the last 3mos she has become a joy to be around. She helps with stuff around the house, makes dinner sometimes, her grades have gone up from C's and D's to A's and B's, and she has a generally pleasant attitude about everything whereas before she hated us, the world, school, life, etc. It's been so nice I haven't wanted to delve into why, but I finally sat down with her last night to ask her why the turnaround?
Her answer, "Oh, Mom, I'm in LOVE! I've had crushes before, you know, but this guy, he's just so totally different. He opens doors for me, pulls out chairs for me, looks at me when I'm talking, listens to me, and just treats me like a QUEEN! I just love him so much!" I was really happy for her until she said, "But... I'm not sure you and Dad will like him."
Her: "He's, well, older."
Me: *GULP!* "How old?"
Her: "Um, 40."
Turns out the guy is one of hubby's football buddies. He's been to the house several times, they talked and got along great (of course, they did, *snort*), and they started dating. She says they haven't had sex yet but I don't believe that for a minute, and OMG, he's 40?? But she is so completely different, happy, better, than she was before him and I'm scared to make the wrong move here and send her back to behaving like a demon again, or worse, send her running into his arms and lose her for good. What do I do?