I am not good in times like this. My hubby's childhood friend has been fighting cancer this since this summer. He worked for a company for about 20 years and they denied him any health insurance help through his medical care/doctor appointments. Needless to say it is very upsetting because he hasn't gotten the medical care he could have got to possibly beat his cancer. My hubby and him have been friends since chilhood so my hubby is struggling with the fact that he is going to die. His friend has a cancer in his back and up until the last 3 months he could walk but he woke up one morning and found out he couldn't walk no more. He was in the hospital, we went to visit him and when we left the hospital hospice came in to talk to him. The way they went about it upset everyone, since the doctors told him he had about one more month left. He was in the hospital around thanksgiving and has since gone home and is in a hospital bed in front of a large t.v that were put in place for him by his family-his sister's live nearby, his wife and a nurse are all switch shifting around the clock care for him. He has been in good care by everyone and seems to have been in pretty good spirits up until a week ago. He has been sleeping more, not responding, loss of appetite and his spirits aren't as good. When hospice came into the hospital he told my hubby that they weren't there for him, it wasn't his time and was able to joke about it. Me and hubby have been visiting him when we can and I have made it a point to get hubby thereIt is so sad, my hubby is sad/he is somewhat depressed because he knows the day is soon coming when his best friend won't be around. They are like brothers, my hubby being older and my hubby always being more outspoken/advice giving and at points in life they were unseperable. I lost my mom 3 years ago and was there for my dad. My brther has been battling brain cancer for 2 years and has been sick and in the hospital off and on and it has been real battle for him-he has hung in there. I have not kept in ntact with one childhood friend so I cannot grasp/imagine the difficulty but can only imaging it to be devastaing and it is going to be extremely hard for my husband. I want to be there for him in his time of need, help him through it in the best possible way I can and be strong for him. This has distanced/distracted/consumed his life and he is very upset sometimes distancing from me-buI am being understanding. What should I do to help him through this. I am not good at dealin with something that is so heavy as losing a best friend that he has had for life. Any advice is helpful. It saddens me alot. I just met his friend before Thanksgiving so I haven't known him long only to say that in the short time I have known him, he is a special person, he is kind and the kind of person, I understand why my hubby and him are so close.