When I was a single mother, I lived in an apartment complex. My daughters and I became very good friends with this young couple that lived across the hallway from us.
I recently have moved into a house with my BF. My BF pays all the household bills, so I am in a much better financial situation now. My friends still live in their apartment and just had a baby.
Last year they got my daughter's xmas gifts. I just went by today to visit the wife and she asked me what I had gotten my girls for xmas. I told her and then realized she might have been looking for ideas to get for my girls, but before I could say anything she changed the subject.
I know they just had a baby and while they're not broke, it sounds like they're trying to be conservative on gifts this year. She said they're not getting anything for the baby, since she's only five months old and doesn't need anything. She also said her and husband limited their gifts to each other at $20. So it sounds like they're trying to control their spending.
I was just going to send her an email saying they don't need to get the girls any gifts. What is a nice way to say thanks, but please don't buy any gifts for my girls this year? There's no need for them to spend money on gifts when my girls are getting so much already.
And I want to get something for their baby, but I'm sure their family is already getting her tons of stuff, so I was thinking of giving money, something that could maybe go towards a college fund, but I'm not sure how to do that.