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Dear 'Daddy' in Seat 16C

Posted by on Jan. 14, 2014 at 9:05 AM
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Dear 'Daddy' in Seat 16C from The Huffington Post

Dear "Daddy,"

I don't know your name, but Kate called you "daddy" for the entire flight last week and you kindly never corrected her. In fact, you didn't even flinch as you could probably tell that she was not confusing you with her own "daddy," but instead making a judgment regarding your level of "safety" for her. If she calls you "daddy" then you better believe she thinks you are alright.

I sat Kate, my 3-year-old who has autism, in the middle seat knowing full well that there would be a stranger sitting next to her for the duration of this flight. I had to make a quick decision and based on her obsession with opening and closing the window shade, I figured she might be less of a distraction if she sat in the middle. I watched the entire Temple basketball team board the plane, and wondered if one of these giants might sit by Kate. They all moved toward the back. She would have liked that, she would have made some observations that I would have had to deal with, but she would have liked those players. I watched many Grandmotherly women board and hoped for one to take the seat but they walked on by. For a fleeting moment I thought we might have a free seat beside us, and then you walked up and sat down with your briefcase and your important documents and I had a vision of Kate pouring her water all over your multi-million dollar contracts, or house deeds, or whatever it was you held. The moment you sat down, Kate started to rub your arm. Your jacket was soft and she liked the feel of it. You smiled at her and she said: "Hi, Daddy, that's my mom." Then she had you.

You could have shifted uncomfortably in your seat. You could have ignored her. You could have given me that "smile" that I despise because it means; "manage your child please." You did none of that. You engaged Kate in conversation and you asked her questions about her turtles. She could never really answer your questions but she was so enamored with you that she kept eye contact and joint attention on the items you were asking her about. I watched and smiled. I made a few polite offers to distract her, but you would have none of it.

Kate: (Upon noticing you had an iPad) Is dis Daddy's puduter?

You: This is my iPad. Would you like to see it?

Kate: To me?????? (I know she thought you were offering it to her to keep)

Me: Look with your eyes, Kate. That is not yours.

Kate: Dat's nice!

You: (Upon noticing that Kate had an iPad) I like your computer, too. It has a nice purple case.

Kate: Daddy wanna be a bad guy? (She offered shredder to you and that, my friend, is high praise)

You: Cool.

The interaction went on and on and you never once seemed annoyed. She gave you some moments of peace while she played with her Anna and Elsa dolls. Kind of her to save you from playing Barbies, but I bet you wouldn't have minded a bit. I bet you have little girls, too.

Not long before we landed Kate had reached her limit. She screamed to have her seatbelt off, she screamed for me to open the plane door and she cried repeating, "Plane is cwosed (closed)" over and over. You tried to redirect her attention to her toys. She was already too far gone at this point, but the fact that you tried to help your new little friend made me emotional.

In case you are wondering, she was fine the moment we stepped off the plane. Thank you for letting us go ahead of you. She was feeling overwhelmed and escaping the plane and a big, long hug was all she needed.

So, thank you. Thank you for not making me repeat those awful apologetic sentences that I so often say in public. Thank you for entertaining Kate so much that she had her most successful plane ride, yet. And, thank you for putting your papers away and playing turtles with our girl.

by on Jan. 14, 2014 at 9:05 AM
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by Member on Jan. 14, 2014 at 9:27 AM
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My favorite part of this touching story was that "Daddy" just accepted Kate as she is.   No questions, No complaints.... just acceptance, tolerance and compassion.    Wonderful!

by on Jan. 14, 2014 at 10:21 AM

I love this...and I love that the mom took the time to acknowledge such a gracious person.  We don't meet many individuals like this in today's world...I hope people are touched by this and that there are more "Daddy's" in the world because of it...a bit of kindness goes a long way!

by on Jan. 14, 2014 at 10:27 AM
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That was very sweet and brought tears to my eyes.  It's wonderful know that there are still truly amazing people out there.

by BL on Jan. 14, 2014 at 10:30 AM

I just read this last night. How awesome that man is.

by Bronze Member on Jan. 14, 2014 at 10:32 AM
I smiled the whole time I read this.
by New Member on Jan. 14, 2014 at 10:39 AM
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What a beautiful man he is and what a wonderful story.

by on Jan. 15, 2014 at 2:53 AM
Beautiful story! What a wondetful man, and kate, thats adorable!
by on Jan. 15, 2014 at 4:41 AM

I cried when I read this. What a wonderful man!

by on Jan. 15, 2014 at 8:39 AM

That is so sweet. What great man and strange at that. The world needs more people like that.

by on Jan. 15, 2014 at 10:21 AM
That's so sweet
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