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7 Things You Should Never Say to a Dog Owner

Posted by on Jan. 20, 2014 at 2:22 PM
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By Carol Bryant | Pet360.com

Some things are better left unsaid. No matter how good something might sound to you-before you utter it aloud-there are some basic "no no's" when it comes to talking with a dog owner. Here are 7 definite comments you should never say. See how many of these have been hurled your way.

1. "You Have Dogs Because You Don't Have Kids, Right?" 
Not only is this rude, but there are millions of people who enjoy both varieties of kids: both the human and the canine types. If you are someone who chooses to have children and then look down upon me or any other millions of childless by choice folks with a sneer, think twice before you speak. We are not lesser people for not having human children. In fact, many of us feel much richer by being graced by the presence of a dog.

2. "Oh, Your Dog Died? Well, Get Another One!" 
For millions of us, hearing "just get another one" when a dog dies is insensitive and can be interpreted as downright cruel, no matter how well-intentioned your words might seem. We do not replace people when they pass, and dog owners feel the same way: A life is irreplaceable no matter the form it takes.

3. "Dogs Should Not Be Allowed on Furniture/Bed"
According to a survey conducted by the American Pet Products Association, almost half of dogs sleep with their owners in their owner's beds. Until you walk a mile in someone else's shoes, where their dog is allowed to reside is totally their own business. Besides, some of us sleep better, feel calm, and are generally more positive people with a dog by our side, present company included.

4. "That Dog Doesn't Understand What You're Saying" 
I talk to my dog. Raise a paw if you are one of the millions of people who talks to their canine family member(s). I do this whether I am doing laundry, shopping in a pet-welcoming store, or driving in the car. Maybe he doesn't understand "Mommy needs a new pair of pumps" but he knows the intonation of my voice and responds with a tail wag and a tilted head; or sometimes no reaction at all. Dogs are living, breathing beings, and it is a fact that much of what we say is understood. Just ask Chaser, the dog who knows well over 1,000 words. To each their own, and if talking to my dog bothers you then don't eavesdrop.

5. "That Dog Should Be Put Down; He's Costing You Too Much Money" 
Perhaps one of the most unsavory and disturbing trends involves folks who feel they are the mortality police. The decision to euthanize a beloved pet is a very personal and heartbreaking one. I know because I've been down that road. Telling me to put a dog down in the name of cost savings is grounds for dismissal from my life, and I know I am not alone in feeling this way.

6. "You Shouldn't Let that Dog Kiss You" 
My mouth, my face, my dog, my life: These four factors alone are all reasons why dog kisses are allowed. Yes, there is a whole scientific school of thought, and some fact, about germs and bacteria and cross contamination and zoonotic diseases. If you don't want a smooch from my pooch then if I am getting a dog kiss, look away and say nothing.

7. "You Are Welcome, But the Dog Is Not" 
As someone who has traveled the country with dogs for over 20 years, my mantra is "love me, love my dog." I do not expect dogs to be allowed everywhere and anywhere, but I do expect the welcome mat to be rolled out if I want to bring my well-behaved dog with me to certain things. Granted, I know my dog can't come to your wedding or to someone's funeral, though I've seen pooches at both. If you simply do not want my dog at your house because you just aren't all that into dogs, then sorry: I'm just not all that into you.

I found this online and thought it was thought provoking.

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by Anonymous on Jan. 20, 2014 at 2:42 PM
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Love them all, except #7-  If you simply do not want my dog at your house because you just aren't all that into dogs, then sorry: I'm just not all that into you.  This is a rude comment.. I grew up with collies and love dogs, but do not own them.  We wanted to wait till the kids were over 5.  My son has a fear of dogs.  My sister's collie poke him in the face and knocked him down when he was 3.   My sister's  collies are therapy dogs and very docile.  This is when the oldest was a puppy.  The neighbor across the street has a jack russell that got loose and went after my son, grab his pant leg and pulled him down when he was 5 and started growling at him.  That was it, he no longer trusted dogs.  My daughter wants t obe a vet and loves all animals.  She and I pet sit my sister's dogs.  We own 2 cats.

My sister's dogs are not allowed in my house. In the summer they can go in the backyard as I have a fenced in yard.   My son is afraid.  If people don't get that, too bad.  I do not have the need to bring my cats everywhere with me, although I would, be I feel its rude.  Why bring drool and fur to someone else's home. My sister in law showed up unanounced with her 13 year old golden retreiver in the winter and was going to leave it our breezeway  Their family, all 7 of them were staying over night..  My husband was pissed,  Of course the dog came in the house and had front seat in front of the fire all night.  I would never put a dog out.  But my son stayed in the other room.  We should have been asked, and my son shouldn't feel uncomfortable in his own home.

 

It not that I am not into dogs, I love them and wish I could own one, but I do not feel a person can't visit someone without their pet.  If they are traveling ask up front please.  Don't just show up with a dog.  My friend does, because she can't affrd to board her dog and says-no one ever turn her away-How rude

EireLass
by Ruby Member on Jan. 20, 2014 at 3:06 PM
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Dogs are easier than kids. You can only crate kids til they start talking.
AliKatAK47
by Bronze Member on Jan. 20, 2014 at 4:18 PM
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I should add

8. "But I have one just like it" or "I had one growing up".
Maybe its just me but I hate when people. or their children, run up and grab my dogs because they have a dog of the similar breed. You may have a dog of the same breed but you do not have a dog "just like" mine. My dogs do not know you, and don't appreciate your 3 year old shoving his face in their faces. 

9. Aren't you afraid that he'll attack you/your kids/someone
This may be only geared towards owners of "power" breeds like Pit Bulls and Rottweilers but Its still annoying. If I was afraid my dog was going to attack me, or anyone else, I wouldn't have him 

Momofmenagerie
by on Jan. 20, 2014 at 4:40 PM
The first one you mention reminds me of the importance of the " yellow ribbon" grassroots that is taking off. A yellow ANYTHING on a on a dog 'a leash is supposed to signify " caution" to other people not to come up on your dog without full permission or actually not at all.

Of course this only works if ppl are educated about it. If they were educated about it, they'd probably not need the reminder, as they would know the common courtesy of asking the the owner IF they can interact with the dog in the first place, no?

Quoting AliKatAK47:

I should add

8. "But I have one just like it" or "I had one growing up".
Maybe its just me but I hate when people. or their children, run up and grab my dogs because they have a dog of the similar breed. You may have a dog of the same breed but you do not have a dog "just like" mine. My dogs do not know you, and don't appreciate your 3 year old shoving his face in their faces. 

9. Aren't you afraid that he'll attack you/your kids/someone
This may be only geared towards owners of "power" breeds like Pit Bulls and Rottweilers but Its still annoying. If I was afraid my dog was going to attack me, or anyone else, I wouldn't have him 

korra2013
by on Jan. 20, 2014 at 4:50 PM
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I can honestly say none of this would bother me. My mom doesn't allow animals in her house so i don't bring my dog. Some people just don't have those feelings for animals and that's ok. People are entitled to their feelings. I have told people before to get another pet after their pet dies. Not as a replacement but because they have so much love to give and there are so many others out there that need it. The kissing thing yeah i don't let my dog do that to be or my kids it's gross. As far as spending money on a dog or where the dog sleeps to each his own. I can't say anything about that because everyone is different. My dog sleeps with me and i like that. I love my furry friend and she loves me.
The_Doodle
by Member on Jan. 20, 2014 at 4:53 PM

We welcome friends' dogs in our home but to expect your dog to be welcome at everyone's houses is ridiculous. 

AliKatAK47
by Bronze Member on Jan. 20, 2014 at 8:18 PM

Exactly. I put yellow ribbons on my rescues before I am sure of their temperament.  People still run up and touch them. 

Quoting Momofmenagerie: The first one you mention reminds me of the importance of the " yellow ribbon" grassroots that is taking off. A yellow ANYTHING on a on a dog 'a leash is supposed to signify " caution" to other people not to come up on your dog without full permission or actually not at all.

Of course this only works if ppl are educated about it. If they were educated about it, they'd probably not need the reminder, as they would know the common courtesy of asking the the owner IF they can interact with the dog in the first place, no?

Quoting AliKatAK47:

I should add

8. "But I have one just like it" or "I had one growing up".
Maybe its just me but I hate when people. or their children, run up and grab my dogs because they have a dog of the similar breed. You may have a dog of the same breed but you do not have a dog "just like" mine. My dogs do not know you, and don't appreciate your 3 year old shoving his face in their faces. 

9. Aren't you afraid that he'll attack you/your kids/someone
This may be only geared towards owners of "power" breeds like Pit Bulls and Rottweilers but Its still annoying. If I was afraid my dog was going to attack me, or anyone else, I wouldn't have him 


la_bella_vita
by Silver Member on Jan. 21, 2014 at 10:33 AM

 I'm a dog owner but I have kid's, my dog is not welcome on our furniture (he has a dog bed), I don' kiss my dog and I do not expect my dog to be welcome anywhere because I do not like when people show up to my home with a dog!

Honeygator
by on Jan. 21, 2014 at 2:45 PM
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This article made me realize for the first time that I don't know anyone who doesn't own or rescue dogs and other animals. I have a 75% timber wolf. She is a HORRIBLE house guest. She wants to kill weak or ill dogs, doesn't like almost any other female dog and she cannot be around other animals while she is or other animals are feeding. I take her everywhere with me, along with her huge collapsable crate, extremely long tie-out chain, large beef femur babysitting bones, leash and food. Her crate is her den and she loves it.

I have a cat that I trained like a dog. He also goes everywhere with me. I don't mean shopping and running errands. I mean going on the road and visiting people.

But I would never expect people to welcome us in their homes if they don't allow animals in their home. I also have no furniture except a bed that the dogs can sleep on. I don't have a living room in other words. I don't have carpet. Everything in my house is geared to cleaning the enormous amounts of animal fur in shedding seasons.

My wolf was a rescue so I can't rescue as many animals as I have in the past.

SeventiesChild
by Member on Jan. 21, 2014 at 6:50 PM

I never heard of the yellow ribbon thing before. News to me.

Quoting Momofmenagerie: The first one you mention reminds me of the importance of the " yellow ribbon" grassroots that is taking off. A yellow ANYTHING on a on a dog 'a leash is supposed to signify " caution" to other people not to come up on your dog without full permission or actually not at all.

Of course this only works if ppl are educated about it. If they were educated about it, they'd probably not need the reminder, as they would know the common courtesy of asking the the owner IF they can interact with the dog in the first place, no?

Quoting AliKatAK47:

I should add

8. "But I have one just like it" or "I had one growing up".
Maybe its just me but I hate when people. or their children, run up and grab my dogs because they have a dog of the similar breed. You may have a dog of the same breed but you do not have a dog "just like" mine. My dogs do not know you, and don't appreciate your 3 year old shoving his face in their faces. 

9. Aren't you afraid that he'll attack you/your kids/someone
This may be only geared towards owners of "power" breeds like Pit Bulls and Rottweilers but Its still annoying. If I was afraid my dog was going to attack me, or anyone else, I wouldn't have him 


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