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What would you do if this was your kid?

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If this happened to your child, what would you do?

I was helping out at the school (parents volunteer 1 day a week on a rotating schedule) and they had a lockdown drill. One of the kids, 6, has kidney problems and frequently needs to go to the bathroom. Well, during the drill, she had to go so one of the teachers escorted her and was stopped in the hall and told to return to class because nobody's allowed to leave the classroom during a lockdown. The little girl wet herself but she didn't have spare clothes to change into and the principal said she couldn't call her mom until the drill was over. I get that there are protocols in place for a real emergency but this was just practice?

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 24, 2014 at 3:05 PM
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by on Jan. 24, 2014 at 3:09 PM
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Well I am a "momma bear" when it comes to my kids so I would be having a little discussion with the Principle!

by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 24, 2014 at 3:10 PM
Were there police there watching the drill?? If so they probably had to do everything in order. Just like a fire drill. You gotta go outside during a drill. You cannot stay inside. Parents over react today and love to scream at schools.
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by Michelle on Jan. 24, 2014 at 5:51 PM
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As a parent I would be upset over this, since it was just a practice run an d not a real emergency. Having said that I know when they do practice runs they do exactly as they would had it beena  real emergency so I see why they sent the child back to the classroom not letting her in the washroom, as if this were a real emergency she wouldn't be allowed in the washroom. So I see it from both sides of the coin.

by on Jan. 24, 2014 at 7:11 PM
I would ask them to let me know when future drills are happening the make sure my daughter uses the bathroom before.
by Member on Jan. 24, 2014 at 7:23 PM
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 Given her known kidney problems, I think the school should make the exception as this was just a drill.  If it were the real thing, then obviously safety outweighs wet pants!

by Silver Member on Jan. 24, 2014 at 7:28 PM
Well at 6 and kidney problems they should make exception for a drill I guess but if it was my kid I would have packed a change of cloths for her
by Bronze Member on Jan. 24, 2014 at 7:41 PM

if it were me,and from what i understand my 4 yr old has theses drills in public school,i'd send extra clothes with the child

by Ruby Member on Jan. 24, 2014 at 7:46 PM
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As the parent, I would always have an extra set of clothes at the school for her, or pants in her backpack or something.

As the helper, I would just explain the rules to the child, and keep her with me in the corner, so the other kids wouldn't taunt her. When the drill was over, I would take her to the office/nurse to call home.

by on Jan. 24, 2014 at 9:56 PM

You're right, it was for practice and not all practices are going to go completely as planned. I understand in the event of a real situation, she wouldn't be able to go to the restroom and may have to experience going to the restroom on herself but the fact of the matter is, today wasn't that actual day (thank God.) 

I'd go in, have a ONE-ON-ONE conversation with the principal and explain to him/her that while I understand the concept behind the practice, how my daughter/son was treated was not part of it. Because she didn't have any clean clothing and could not call her mom/dad - she had to sit in her mess until whatever time it was that that the practice was over. If I were in YOUR shoes, I'd get in contact with the child's mother/dad and explain to them that you were there thru the whole thing and that you'd be up for stating what went on with any action they feel they want to take.  

On The Other Hand - Edit: If my child had a tendency of going to the restroom on herself because of bad kidneys - I'd make sure an extra outfit was with her at all times. Either somewhere in the classroom or in the office, or somethin'.

by Member on Jan. 25, 2014 at 11:34 AM

The schools are taking this too far. My son came home yesterday and told me that his sub sent a student to the office to turn in attendance right before the drill. The sub knew what time the drill was going to happen and still sent the student out of the room. Yesterday morning it was only 19 degrees outside. When the student came back to the room the sub would not let her in because "if it was a really drill one student is not worth the lives of the rest them". The class was in an uproar and she put the student at risk over a drill. 

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