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He won't have sex with me!!!

Anonymous
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My SO and I have been together for almost two years now. He is a great man and makes me ridiculously happy in many ways. Except the bedroom. Don't get me wrong, when we do have sex, it's the best I have ever had! But those times seem to be few and far between. I have a higher sex drive then him and it drives me insane! Shouldn't it be the man begging for sex?? He tells me that it has absolutely nothing to do with me, and it's all him. He says that it's all a mental thing for him and he just can't get excited as much as he used to. Now, I'm a bigger girl so when he turns me down, I'm sure you can gather where my mind goes. But he tells me that he finds me sexy... So what gives?? I would love any advice for anyone who has gone through the same thing or something similar!!
Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 29, 2014 at 5:54 PM
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paknari
by on Mar. 29, 2014 at 5:56 PM
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Maybe he has low testosterone. My DH was tested but didn't bit he had high blood pressure which made it hard for him to get aroused
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 29, 2014 at 6:01 PM
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This is not to be mean in any way. Just telling my experience.  I would always get turned down to, and I'm a bigger girl.  My husband always said it wasn't that. Come to find out, he just didn't have the balls to tell me that it was in fact me being bigger.

NDADanceMom
by on Mar. 29, 2014 at 6:46 PM
How did you find out?

Quoting Anonymous:

This is not to be mean in any way. Just telling my experience.  I would always get turned down to, and I'm a bigger girl.  My husband always said it wasn't that. Come to find out, he just didn't have the balls to tell me that it was in fact me being bigger.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 29, 2014 at 7:34 PM

Honestly, I would be worried more about that. But most of his previous sexual partners have been bigger girls. Even most of the porn he watches star bigger girls.
Quoting Anonymous:

This is not to be mean in any way. Just telling my experience.  I would always get turned down to, and I'm a bigger girl.  My husband always said it wasn't that. Come to find out, he just didn't have the balls to tell me that it was in fact me being bigger.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 29, 2014 at 7:37 PM
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Maybe get him to go to the Drs?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 29, 2014 at 7:49 PM

 During an argument during the first few days of our separation.

Quoting NDADanceMom: How did you find out?
Quoting Anonymous:

This is not to be mean in any way. Just telling my experience.  I would always get turned down to, and I'm a bigger girl.  My husband always said it wasn't that. Come to find out, he just didn't have the balls to tell me that it was in fact me being bigger.

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Mar. 29, 2014 at 7:50 PM
Did he have this problem with previous partners?
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 29, 2014 at 7:55 PM
His pervious partners weren't as... Sexually driven as I am. Except his first girlfriend he lost his v-card to. They had sex a bunch, but it was his first time.

Quoting Anonymous: Did he have this problem with previous partners?
Cutenessmom
by Member on Mar. 29, 2014 at 7:57 PM

Sounds fishy? He needs t talk to you as well.  Ask him to explain it why he is not turned  on anymore? If  he is not turend  anymore and  no way ot turn him on hate ot say it move on. 


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 29, 2014 at 8:02 PM
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We have talked many times. It's not like he doesn't ever get turned on or never sleeps with me. It's usually at really random times. Most of the time, after I have passed out, he will rip the covers off me and wake me up for a really great session.

Quoting Cutenessmom:

Sounds fishy? He needs t talk to you as well.  Ask him to explain it why he is not turned  on anymore? If  he is not turend  anymore and  no way ot turn him on hate ot say it move on. 

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