Who makes the money in your household? (I'm a stay-at-home mom so i don't get a paycheck and my bf works 60 hours/week and obviously gets a paycheck)
If it is either JUST you or JUST your significant other that makes the money, how does that money get managed? Is it considered money for BOTH of you? Does the person who doesn't bring home a paycheck get a say in how the money is spent (or saved!) or is that mostly up to the person who makes the money?
I ask because I don't feel worthy of spending any money my bf makes. Yes, he makes it available to me and I'm free to spend what I'd like or if I need to, but I don't. Unless it is something that's absolutely necessary (like we need toilet paper or diapers or we need a couple ingredients for me to make dinner) I don't really spend any of the money---especially NOT on myself. I would rather save it. He seems to have this mentality that as long as bills are paid anything left over can be spent. Okay sure, it CAN be spent, but it doesn't need to be.
We argue about money pretty often...so tell me, what should I do in this situation? Am I wrong for wanting to save our money and not spend it just because we 'can'? Should I spend money (HIS money) on myself once in awhile (nothing extravagent, but if my son and i are at the mall and I see a cute shirt for $5, should i feel ok with purchasing that?) This is a HUGE issue...