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How many of us cheated on our spouse?

Anonymous
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I was I think an serial cheater. After he turned 40 he said no more sex. I had always enjoyed myself-apparently more than he did. So basically if a nice looking guy or the bad boy would get it from me. My friends called me "Pollyanna" since I sounded so nice when I wasn't actually. I made sure it was never in our town and never told-he may have suspected but could never prove it but I figure he made his self unavailable but not me.

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 31, 2014 at 7:31 PM
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nurse1997
by Silver Member on Jul. 31, 2014 at 7:36 PM

Shit happens if he wont put out then it's his problem !

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 31, 2014 at 7:42 PM

 I cheated on my husband before we were married. One time... I knew him for 4 months. He went to jail. His mom asked me to come over and his brother asked me to go drinking with him. I got really drunk and had sex with him. My husband (boyfriend at the time) found out. But I promised it would never happen again. It didn't, but it did.

Me and him got into a fight because he thought I was cheating on him. I wasn't. I ended up going to someone I hated because I was so depressed and ended up getting super drunk. I ended up passing out on his couch and when I woke up, he was finishing up. He told his mom, and then she mentioned it in front of my husband. He thought I wanted to do it but I was asleep for the whole time except the end when I woke up.

But he's not Mr. Innocent. He cheated on me twice as well. Before he even knew about me. The first time was before we got married. The second time was after. And it was before the thing happened when I was asleep. He thought I was cheating on him and he was the one that cheated on me! With someone much more attractive too... She actually died a few weeks ago... I don't know how I feel about that...

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jul. 31, 2014 at 7:51 PM
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Not me. I hate cheaters and think you need to leave if you are gonna cheat.  For better or worse isn't anything anymore I guess.  Marriage is hard and has to be worked on and you change and make do and work on things.  OR divorce and leave if you want to mess around. 

EireLass
by Ruby Member on Jul. 31, 2014 at 9:38 PM
Never. And I know I never would. Nor would I tolerate him doing it.
numonestunar
by New Member on Jul. 31, 2014 at 9:52 PM
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Nah. If I wanted another man's company I would leave my husband and not disrespect him like that.
booaura
by Member on Jul. 31, 2014 at 10:32 PM
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Never have, never will.
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by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 1, 2014 at 8:40 AM
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I don't know about leaving-there would be so many problems with that. But if I was horny and couldn't get it at home-which by the way I am alone now-then I would.

applesnbananas
by Member on Aug. 1, 2014 at 8:51 AM
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Nope never. Not even during our 4 year engagement prior to our marriage, although he thinks I did :-( he cheated on me with multiple women and thinks I cheated too. (The thought makes me sick!) He's faithful and has made a lot of changes. Has made our family his only priority. No more porn. No more bars without me. No more making excuses to not come home and blame it on the military. When the military takes him away he does his job and spends time in his room or gym or with other loyal married friends. All passwords are an open book. No pass codes, no locks on anything. Even though we don't make it a habit to snoop. No more lying. Hasn't cheated or even thought of it in 5 years. I had my bags packed when I found out. I'm glad I stayed. It was a learning experience and we are back to the trust I always had, and our love is stronger than ever before.
FrankMamma
by Member on Aug. 1, 2014 at 9:22 AM

Never. Neither of us, yes I am positive he hasn't. I really dislike people that do not keep a vow, marriage or otherwise. If you're going to do that to him, just leave, it would be kinder, do you really hate him that much? Have you even talked to him about how you feel? How do you know he just cut you off and isn't getting some on the side,to would that be OK with you? What happens if he finds out from someone else, you probably say you don't care, but do you really? Do you have kids, what about them? What happens if you get pregnant, and STD, etc from this, you're probably taking precautions but bad shit happens every day to the most prepared. It sounds to me like you're reacting from the gut, out of revenge and no other reason.

mcginnisc
by Bronze Member on Aug. 1, 2014 at 9:25 AM

No.. I think it is a form of cowardice and shows a person's true demeanor if they cheat. I find people that cheat to be dishonest in all ways of life and I have no respect for someone of that ilk. In 23 years, we've never cheated on each other. We have more respect for ourselves and each other than to do so. 

Claire


" I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Philippians 4:13 

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