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Why do people hate disabled people so much?

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I have noticed that a lot of people in cyber world or in real life hate disabled people. I hear form these people that "most" disabled people are just "lazy", "faking it", "don't want to work", whiners" etc and I almost always hear that disabled people should "just get a job" or "find some sort of work".

Not every disabled person can "just get a job" or "find some sort of work".

Why do you suppose people have such a strong dislike for disabled people? Do you thi9nk it has to do with the mentality or survival of the fittest?

by on Oct. 18, 2008 at 4:10 PM
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MaddiesMommy49
by on Oct. 18, 2008 at 4:26 PM

i agree. People see someone who appears to be physically disabled and then see someone that looks entirely able but dont realize that they may have a mental condition, or something else internal so they might start to wonder.

Quoting atlmom2:

I guess you could say Matt Roloff could be disabled on Little People Big World.  He works a (normal) job, helps to run their farm, and also runs his own business.  I guess when you see him, and see others that are not disabled as him, not working, it just makes you think.  Just making a statement here for the other side.  Just like welfare, there are people getting disablility that could have jobs, and there are plenty of people that rightfully get disability. 


Robyn218
by on Oct. 18, 2008 at 4:28 PM

Are you talking about mentally retarded people, or people born with a multitude of disabilities?  Handicapped people like war veterans missing a limb? People who have had to go on disability due to an accident or work injury?  People with cancer?

OR are you talking about the lady who faked a fall and now has disability for the really sore back or neck no one can diagnose or treat because neck and back injuries can be so crazy...  OR the people who have totally fried their brains on drugs and now get disability because they cannot take stress or are too dumb to comprehend?  OR the people who really know how to work the system? 

There are different kinds of "Disabled" people. 

Some I love and respect with every bit of myself.  Some I DISLIKE  with the same every bit. 

metalmomma25
by on Oct. 18, 2008 at 4:28 PM

Well, if thats not what she meant, she will clarify. But obviously that is how I took it.

Quoting MaddiesMommy49:

so criticize someone for the way they worded it?

Quoting metalmomma25:

sure it does. It not fair for her to say "acually" disabled either. How does she know who is "accually" disabled? Many people have no outward signs that they are disabled like mental illness for one or a chronic desease such as fibromyaligia.

Quoting MaddiesMommy49:

thats not fair for you to jump to conclusions. nothing about her answer indicates that she doesnt like disabled people.

Quoting metalmomma25:

see, but just your answer indicates that you think you have a right to decided who is "acually" disabled and tells me that you don't like disbaled people. I am just wondering why that is.

Quoting AnitaVersion2.0:

Okay, that is just ridiculous.  I don't know of anyone who thinks that about ACTUALLY disabled people.






metalmomma25
by on Oct. 18, 2008 at 4:30 PM

I am talking about all disabled people. Even the ones that people think they are an expert on others level of diability.

Quoting Robyn218:

Are you talking about mentally retarded people, or people born with a multitude of disabilities?  Handicapped people like war veterans missing a limb? People who have had to go on disability due to an accident or work injury?  People with cancer?

OR are you talking about the lady who faked a fall and now has disability for the really sore back or neck no one can diagnose or treat because neck and back injuries can be so crazy...  OR the people who have totally fried their brains on drugs and now get disability because they cannot take stress or are too dumb to comprehend?  OR the people who really know how to work the system? 

There are different kinds of "Disabled" people. 

Some I love and respect with every bit of myself.  Some I DISLIKE  with the same every bit. 


metalmomma25
by on Oct. 18, 2008 at 4:33 PM

I guess what I am needing clarification on is this:

what is "truly" or "accually" diabled mean?

KRISSH
by on Oct. 18, 2008 at 4:33 PM

OK...I,M DISABLED..LET ME TELL U MY SIDE..

THE WAY SEE IT..OK..LET,S SAY U HAVE WORKED FOR 20-30 YEARS..AND U HAVE  TAKEN CARE OF YOU,R FAM..U HAVE GOT A HOUSE ,CAR U HAVE PAYED FOR. U ARE USE TO DOING IT BY YOU,R SELF. ON YOU,R OWNE.

THAN ONE DAY U HURT YOU,R SELF..AND U CAN,T WORK..U LOOSE YOU,R HOUSE ,CAR,MONEY..U HAVE  TO ASK FOR HELP..U CAN,T EVEN BY YOU,R FAM FOOD...

OK..NOW DON,T U THANK U HAVE BEEN THROW A LOT.

THAN U READY SOME DUM SH#* LIKE THIS..

WEN U ARE DISABLED U WON,T TO WORK..BUT CAN,T ..

U WON,T TO "DO SOMTHING ". BUT U CAN,T.

U WON,T TO CARE FOR YOU,R FAM...BUT IT WON,T HAPPEN..

WEN U ARE DISABLED . U FEAL WORTHLESS..BECASE U CAN,T DO WHAT U DID BEFORE.

IF I CAN GET UP AND HAVE A DAY WTH NO PAINE I,M HAPPY..

GOOD LUCK ALL DISABLED FRENDS..

Robyn218
by on Oct. 18, 2008 at 4:36 PM

I had a knee surgery a few years ago.  A month or so later, I was still using a cane but doing very well...  I took my daughter to Disneyland.  I took my cane.  The knee had a brace and off we went.  (The boys went on a deep sea fishing trip...YUCK!)

We started out standing in line to go on rides.  I did not act like a disabled person or WANT special treatment. I AM NOT DISABLED!   A young man (worker) told me because of the cane I HAD to use the disabled entrances for the rides.  I told him I WAS  NOT DISABLED! 

I still had to use the other entrance...  OK.  It was the best Disney trip I ever had.  We got on the rides SO FAST!  They carried my food  trays too and were SO HELPFUL!

The next time I went to Disneyland, I wanted to find that old cane and take it again,  BUT I DIDN'T!  I stood in line.  LOL!

Robyn218
by on Oct. 18, 2008 at 4:39 PM
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You have my utmost respect.  I wish you the very best and I hope a huge bag of money falls off a truck onto the hood of your car...  You are the kind of disabled people I really feel for, because people can and will treat you so badly.  I hate that!

Quoting KRISSH:

OK...I,M DISABLED..LET ME TELL U MY SIDE..

THE WAY SEE IT..OK..LET,S SAY U HAVE WORKED FOR 20-30 YEARS..AND U HAVE  TAKEN CARE OF YOU,R FAM..U HAVE GOT A HOUSE ,CAR U HAVE PAYED FOR. U ARE USE TO DOING IT BY YOU,R SELF. ON YOU,R OWNE.

THAN ONE DAY U HURT YOU,R SELF..AND U CAN,T WORK..U LOOSE YOU,R HOUSE ,CAR,MONEY..U HAVE  TO ASK FOR HELP..U CAN,T EVEN BY YOU,R FAM FOOD...

OK..NOW DON,T U THANK U HAVE BEEN THROW A LOT.

THAN U READY SOME DUM SH#* LIKE THIS..

WEN U ARE DISABLED U WON,T TO WORK..BUT CAN,T ..

U WON,T TO "DO SOMTHING ". BUT U CAN,T.

U WON,T TO CARE FOR YOU,R FAM...BUT IT WON,T HAPPEN..

WEN U ARE DISABLED . U FEAL WORTHLESS..BECASE U CAN,T DO WHAT U DID BEFORE.

IF I CAN GET UP AND HAVE A DAY WTH NO PAINE I,M HAPPY..

GOOD LUCK ALL DISABLED FRENDS..


fullcup
by on Oct. 18, 2008 at 4:53 PM

Well, if a person *can* be a contributing member of society, shouldn't he, even if entitled to a handicap parking space? 

My dd at age 12, is learning skills to help her be just that.  She'll always be dependent on us (her parents), but it is our hope that she'll have some degree of independence and find meaningful work. 

I had a neighbor once, a quarter body amputee due to cancer.  Drew disability from the time she was 19 on.  She can talk, use her hands, work, she just needs crutches (her choice) or a wheelchair (she never used one).  So, really she was like me, but without a limb.  MANY people have seated jobs, receptionist, attorney, so on.  Why didn't she work?  I don't get it.

I think too, a LOT of people abuse the title of "disabled".  Fat?  That's why you have diabetes and circulation issues?  Um, yeah, lose weight, don't take my parking slip.  Fell at work?  Seeing a chiropractor?  Oh, better now?  Turn in your temp parking placard.

It is no wonder persons with true disabilities are seen as less that full class citizens.  MANY *non*disabled persons are running around giving the false impression of what it means to be disabled.

At least this is how I see it. :)

Blessings!
metalmomma25
by on Oct. 18, 2008 at 5:03 PM

but who says that just because you can't work you are not contributing to society?

and being overweight can be a symptom of other illnesses or medications people take for thier conditions.

I wouldn't see a chiropractor if someone paid me.

just because a person can sit for long periods of time and type on a computer does not mean they can work. I know thats hard for people to see, but it is true.

Quoting fullcup:

Well, if a person *can* be a contributing member of society, shouldn't he, even if entitled to a handicap parking space? 

My dd at age 12, is learning skills to help her be just that.  She'll always be dependent on us (her parents), but it is our hope that she'll have some degree of independence and find meaningful work. 

I had a neighbor once, a quarter body amputee due to cancer.  Drew disability from the time she was 19 on.  She can talk, use her hands, work, she just needs crutches (her choice) or a wheelchair (she never used one).  So, really she was like me, but without a limb.  MANY people have seated jobs, receptionist, attorney, so on.  Why didn't she work?  I don't get it.

I think too, a LOT of people abuse the title of "disabled".  Fat?  That's why you have diabetes and circulation issues?  Um, yeah, lose weight, don't take my parking slip.  Fell at work?  Seeing a chiropractor?  Oh, better now?  Turn in your temp parking placard.

It is no wonder persons with true disabilities are seen as less that full class citizens.  MANY *non*disabled persons are running around giving the false impression of what it means to be disabled.

At least this is how I see it. :)


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