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Do you worry that your relitives are/will spoil your child?????

Posted by on Jan. 2, 2009 at 7:31 PM
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I feel blessed that my son has so much more than I ever did as a kid.  I try to tell the relatives to take it easy on what they give the baby (he is only 17 months) but its crazy the amount they spend on him all the time, let alone holidays and his birthday.  I don't know what to do with ALL THE TOYS and wish we could limit it to one per person per holiday, and I would love to see them donate a toy to an organization in my sons name, but the gifts KEEP coming in (Today even a HUGE box from the family in new york)!  Its extremely overwhelming and I'm afraid my son  will be spoiled! 

To name only a few relatives sent this Christmas:

a baby laptop (leap frog)

a baby saxophone leap frog

two xylophones (one is a combanation piano/xylophone, one is a pull along song xylophone)

a pro skate board (he is only 17 months! but we do have a pro skater in teh family)

an ATV (like a real car he rides around on)

tickle me ernie

drum set

a basket ball hoop by leap frog

a baby guitar

Tee Ball set

Bath toys

LOTS of Ralph Lauren Clothes and LOTS of other toys.

I feel like a grintch!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  And this happens year round.  Gosh, I feel bad for saying NO MORE PLEASE but what else am I to do???

 

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KittyD
by on Jan. 2, 2009 at 7:32 PM

my parents have my kids very spoiled and it bugs!

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KairisMama
by Bronze Member on Jan. 2, 2009 at 7:34 PM

MY DD is VERY spoiled by all of her grandparents, great grandparents, and aunts and uncles. I don't worry though, for that's how it was when DH and I were little. Our parents taught us not to be greedy and selfish, and taught us the value of sharing. As long as I raise my DD with those same values, she can enjoy everything her relatives want to give her. Besides, I like it too, for DH and I NEVER have to buy this girl clothes....LOL.

 Kairi happy new year 2009

Kays_Mama06
by on Jan. 2, 2009 at 7:35 PM

My MIL od's on all her grandkids. It is slightly annoying when I tell her no more bottle and low and behold there's one at her house that he drinks out of..

but the extra clothes and stuff dont really bother me too much since i cant always get him things myself.






Brook172
by on Jan. 2, 2009 at 7:35 PM

We have the same the problem but we just play with the stuff for a little while then donate them.I dont really worry about it.Its just hard to find a place for half the toys.

shoegirl01
by on Jan. 2, 2009 at 7:39 PM

Yeah I can't tell you HOW much I give away!  And I put all the toys away then an hour later they are all out :)  Never thought as a mother this would be an issue! ha

Quoting Brook172:

We have the same the problem but we just play with the stuff for a little while then donate them.I dont really worry about it.Its just hard to find a place for half the toys.


 

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Ayla-bellesmom
by on Jan. 2, 2009 at 7:40 PM

I know exactly what you mean. My daughter is only 14 months, but she's the first grandbaby for both my mom and Pete's Adoptive mom, so they tend to go a little overboard. We've decided that every holiday if this continues, we are going to go through all of her toys and donate everything that she isn't really attatched to and barely plays with, because honestly, it's just too much. A couple days after Christmas this year, we sat down and pulled all of her toys in the living room, and I was kind of astonished at how much there was, it doesn't look like all that much when it's divided up in between her room, the playroom and the living room. We basically were just like, "ok, this is too much, and we got rid of a good 2 garbage bags full of stuff. Alot of it were things from when she was a smaller baby, and toys in the bottom of the toy boxes that she never plays with. So I feel alot better now, because it's lightened our load a bit, and hopefully some other kid will get some fun out of it.


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shoegirl01
by on Jan. 2, 2009 at 7:42 PM

I really like the idea of doing the clean out after or during or before the holdiay.  It could also be a sort of tradition for my son to show empathy and sharing.  Thank you!

Quoting Ayla-belles57mom:

I know exactly what you mean. My daughter is only 14 months, but she's the first grandbaby for both my mom and Pete's Adoptive mom, so they tend to go a little overboard. We've decided that every holiday if this continues, we are going to go through all of her toys and donate everything that she isn't really attatched to and barely plays with, because honestly, it's just too much. A couple days after Christmas this year, we sat down and pulled all of her toys in the living room, and I was kind of astonished at how much there was, it doesn't look like all that much when it's divided up in between her room, the playroom and the living room. We basically were just like, "ok, this is too much, and we got rid of a good 2 garbage bags full of stuff. Alot of it were things from when she was a smaller baby, and toys in the bottom of the toy boxes that she never plays with. So I feel alot better now, because it's lightened our load a bit, and hopefully some other kid will get some fun out of it.


 

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atlmom2
by Susie on Jan. 2, 2009 at 9:30 PM

I never bought my kids anything because the grandparents bought them enough the first few years of their life.  No need to.   I also put a lot away and took some out a few months later when they were bored and wanted something new.  I did that a lot. 

sooga_booga
by on Jan. 3, 2009 at 12:59 AM

I never worried about it.. It was a given that it was going to happen... lol   My son is the first born grandson in my family. There was no avoiding family spoiling him.. =)  And I just accepted it, and did my part to keep him grounded over the years.

                                  

afwife2000
by on Jan. 3, 2009 at 1:01 AM

laughingYeah right... I'm lucky they remember birthdays and Christmas...

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