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What do you think? Is it cute when little kids make Valentine's Day cards? Or are we teaching them a bad lesson?

Posted by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 2:41 PM
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Too Young for Romance by Brett Singer Feb 11th 2009 11:00AM Categories: Kids 5-7, Holidays Valentine's Day is almost upon us. Children of all ages will exchange cards, hugs and candy hearts. It starts as young as kindergarten, and continues until the kids discover that sometimes "love" is more fun in private. I know this will make some folks mad, but maybe having little kids make Valentine's for their peers is a bad idea. To illustrate, here are some examples, both personal and fictional.When I was a lad, a mere 6 years old, I had a girlfriend. She was a blonde. Short hair. Wendy to my Peter Pan. (Literally – we put on a play together at my house. I used my mother's wooden letter opener as a sword. Very romantic.) One day at school, we decided, over blocks, that we would have a baby together. We weren't clear on the details; we just knew that a man needed something and a woman needed something else. Put these two things together and WAM! Little bundle of joy. So we agreed to go to Woolworth's (a now-defunct department store) where we were positive the appropriate parts could be purchased. I don't think we knew what exactly we needed to buy, but we seemed certain that each came in it's own little plastic bag and was next to the pet food aisle. (That girl's name... was Nadya Suleman. Just kidding.) Remember Ralph Wiggum? Poor Ralph. His heart was broken by Lisa Simpson when she rejected his offer of love. Eventually she gives him a Valentine – "I Choo-Choo-Choose You" – and all was forgiven. Remember how Charlie Brown was the only kid in his class that didn't get a single Valentine? He opens his mailbox only to get a kiss on the nose from his trusty beagle. No matter how hard teachers try to keep everything fair, there will always be a Charlie Brown or a Ralph Wiggum (it's usually the boys, isn't it?) who doesn't get a card. Or maybe they get a card, but everyone else gets more cards. And for the kid who isn't getting cards, Valentine's Day sucks big time. Typically the cardless kid is the one who isn't popular the rest of the year. Why create a school-sanctioned event that will make the poor guy feel even worse than he already does? Look. Young love is adorable. Those little German kids who tried to elope were undeniably cute. And look at this video! Can I get an "Awwww"? Still, why teach kids how to judge their peers based on some notion of romance that they don't really understand? I know. It's just fun. I should lighten up. But what if your child is Charlie Brown? Then how would you feel? Confession time: My kindergarten success with the ladies didn't last; I had no elementary school romantic entanglements. By high school I got my mojo back, and I'm keeping those stories to myself. By then I didn't have to sit around a table with construction paper and glue making sticky heart-shaped cards for my fellow students. Here's an idea. Why not make Valentine's Day cards for an organization like Meals on Wheels? Or Ronald McDonald House? Wouldn't that be a nice thing to do? It's certainly better than (a) forcing kids to make cards for kids in their class that they don't like, just to be "nice" or (b) letting them make cards only for the kids that they do like, thereby making anyone who doesn't get cards feel like crap. Let them discover boyfriend/girlfriend stuff on their own. It's cuter, and leads to less hurt feelings. What do you think? Is it cute when little kids make Valentine's Day cards? Or are we teaching them a bad lesson?CLICK ON LINK TO WATCH A VIDEO                             http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HO0otVloKoI

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johnnysmom912
by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 2:46 PM

 i understand the point that is being made, but i think it's all in good fun...and my son (who is in kinderarten) didnt write out his cards with the thought that it was for a 'girlfriend" he just wrote them out for all of his friends..as far as anyone being left out, i'm pretty sure if you are sending in cards you send them in for Everyone or noone at all, at least i know that goes for party invitations, if you send them into school, you have to invite the entire class, or send them privatly, which i think is fair..back to the cards my son really enjoyed getting all his cards and treats, so i think its just something fun to keep the spirits up and make this day a lil more exciting in school!!! :)

gabrielsmom2006
by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 2:50 PM

I think the author is taking this WAY too seriously!!! It is just a cute thing to do, and in most calsses you HAVE to send one for everyone. Lighten up

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Dzyre1115
by Bronze Member on Feb. 13, 2009 at 2:53 PM

Ahhh another person who needs a hobby.  When will all the seriousness end!

Teeshann
by Silver Member on Feb. 13, 2009 at 2:54 PM

i remember in school we were given a list of all our class mates and if we brought valentines we had to give one to everyone. i mean i usually put a little more candy in my friends but everyone got one.

bonitamomma3
by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 2:57 PM

i think it is cute and all in good fun.

I'm a first time momma getting in tune with these motherly instincts. I'm a mother to a very active little boy, he is 2 months now, and I am in love with that little monkey!

bluerain31
by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 3:00 PM

FOR THE RECORD I LOVE V-DAY AND I THINK ITS CUTE FOR THE KIDDOS SO PLEASE DONT ATTACK ME THINKING THIS CAME FROM ME ISIMPLY POSTED IT TO SEE WHAT OTHERS THAUGHT SO STOP EMAILING ME DIRTY EMAILS ABOUT THIS  

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Domzmom2005
by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 3:00 PM

I remember coming home with lists of the kids in class and it had a note on top for parents stating that they had to give a Valentine to EVERY kid so it would be fair.

I would just pick out the "cool" valentines for my friends and the other kids got whatever one I happened to pick up. I think that trading valentines makes kids feel special and that it shouldn't be taken seriously.

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Domzmom2005
by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 3:02 PM

People are sending YOU dirty emails? Wow! nice to see that people don't actually read the posts completley because the author's name is in the first line.

Sorry this is hapening to you, people need to pay more attention.

Quoting bluerain31:

FOR THE RECORD I LOVE V-DAY AND I THINK ITS CUTE FOR THE KIDDOS SO PLEASE DONT ATTACK ME THINKING THIS CAME FROM ME ISIMPLY POSTED IT TO SEE WHAT OTHERS THAUGHT SO STOP EMAILING ME DIRTY EMAILS ABOUT THIS  


monky819
by on Feb. 13, 2009 at 3:06 PM

What I have learned from Cafemom.com  -  There will always be someone out there to complain about something, no matter what the topic may be.   ugh

monshine2
by Silver Member on Feb. 13, 2009 at 3:07 PM

The guy that wrote this has obvious anger and resentment issues from his childhood LOL  

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