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Would you "Leggo your EGGo's" to survive in a drowning economy?

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Finding a job like is trying to make a soup sandwhich ... This couple is starting to think inside the body outside the box.

How far would you go to help keep your family afloat and marriage together during a financial crisis??

Starting Our Nest Egg We're broke: Should my wife sell her eggs to an infertile couple?

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Dear Prudie,
My wife and I have been married for a thoroughly enjoyable three years, but we've recently fallen on hard times. At nearly 30, I now realize becoming a screenwriter should be Plan B, although I still have to find Plan A. My wife is a 24-year-old student. We'd like to start a family but can't for a few years. She has suggested egg donation. From the various listings, it sounds like we could make $6,000-8,000 per shot. As she sees it, we'd be helping a determined couple have a family, we could use the money, and she's just "flushing them down the toilet every month" anyway. Any child would be lucky to share her genes—she's smart and gorgeous. But I have concerns. First, I think these hopeful parents should consider adopting. Second, despite the technicalities, I have a hard time seeing her eggs merely as genetic material. Part of me feels that since any child that results from this would be half my wife, I would feel a sense of responsibility for it and its well-being. What should we do?

—Leggo My Eggo

Dear Leggo,
Obviously, your gametes can't get you out of your financial hole. Sperm are a dime a dozen, but, oh, those golden eggs. You need to consider this step carefully because it will have implications for the rest of your lives. However, since the whole point of this exercise is that the recipient family gets to raise the child, you can stop worrying about that obligation. Also on the plus side, your wife might be the answer to an infertile couple's prayers. Egg donation is a low-risk but intrusive process, and there is the possibility of complications. This report has information about the medical issues. There has been little research on the psychological impact of egg donation, but this study looks at donors' mental state (generally fine) two years later. It used to be that egg and sperm donation was kept secret by the recipients. But the legal and cultural world of assisted reproduction is in flux, and as this report shows, opinion is shifting toward telling the child about his or her beginnings. This article describes how "donor conception is creating new family forms"—radically extending the notion of extended family. So you have to consider that one day triplets might ring the doorbell wanting to meet their biological mother. (This might be the basis for a movie, but I agree you should get out of the screenwriting business.) I can't make a decision for the two of you. But as you think through this possibility, your wife needs to do more than shrug and say egg donation is simply a lucrative alternative to flushing the toilet.

—Prudie

 
by on Mar. 3, 2009 at 1:01 AM
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AsianEggDonor
by on Apr. 19, 2009 at 9:19 AM
Hello ladies,

I am an egg donor and I have a blog about my journey in case anyone is curious. I also have links to several other egg donor blogs and egg recipient blogs so people can educate themselves. Please have a look :)

http://asianeggdonor.wordpress.com
izmelyly
by on Apr. 19, 2009 at 1:48 PM


Quoting AsianEggDonor:

Hello ladies,

I am an egg donor and I have a blog about my journey in case anyone is curious. I also have links to several other egg donor blogs and egg recipient blogs so people can educate themselves. Please have a look :)

http://asianeggdonor.wordpress.com

Thanks!

iheartmyshaman
by on Apr. 19, 2009 at 1:52 PM

For 4,000 an egg?  Sure!  I still plan on having my own kids...and it's not like I'm going through a surrogate pregnancy to get attached to the eggs-turning-kiddies!

Mazie0723
by Bronze Member on Apr. 19, 2009 at 1:56 PM

I have looked into this it was years ago though and I found out about all the crap you  have to go through and said never mind.. I could not inject myself everyday and then go through the process of waiting to have someone pick me from a stack of profiles. I know if your not picked then you do not get paid so you could go through all that crap and never see the money anyways. I would donate to a friend but that would be it and I would not accept money from them for it.


Mommy to Tayler 9, Jaylyn 4, Ashlyn 15 months, Cayden 3 and Braden due 4-28-09.


 James & Nicole - 07-23-03




Mommy to an "intact" boy. It's his penis his choice!, I formula feed,and vaccinate. I do what is best for MY family.





Mazie0723
by Bronze Member on Apr. 19, 2009 at 1:58 PM

It's not just for one egg. They say normally they take about 40-50 at one time and you can I think only donate twice in your life.

Quoting iheartmyshaman:

For 4,000 an egg?  Sure!  I still plan on having my own kids...and it's not like I'm going through a surrogate pregnancy to get attached to the eggs-turning-kiddies!



Mommy to Tayler 9, Jaylyn 4, Ashlyn 15 months, Cayden 3 and Braden due 4-28-09.


 James & Nicole - 07-23-03




Mommy to an "intact" boy. It's his penis his choice!, I formula feed,and vaccinate. I do what is best for MY family.





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