Hi everyone! My name is Erin and I have 2 high need kids. Kylie just turned 3, and Lucas is 13 months. We have a horrible sleep situation...I'm so embarrased...
My son sleeps in our bed, and Kylie is in her crib with the railing off, right next to my bed. Bad, I know. I am up every 30 mins nursing Lucas and I just cant do it anymore. On top of that, Kylie is up 3-4 times a night as well. She is scared to death of 'monsters' and wont even sleep in her toddler bed in my room. She has to be right next to me or she is absolutely terrified...
So I just bought 2 pack n plays in hopes of maybe weaning them both away from me. They are by my bed and I hope to get them to sleep at least off of me. Then slowly move them away from my bed and into their own rooms...
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My main question is about CIO. I have a soft heart and cant bear to hear my kids scream, but I think it maybe be the only option. I just think it'll be extra hard for us since Lucas is very dependent on nursing to sleep (he cant fall asleep any other way. He refuses a bottle in bed and has never taken to a binky). So If I let him CIO *to* sleep, then do I just let him cry every single time he wakes up as well?
No bashing please. I know our situation is bad. Very bad. I am working on it. Helpful advice is appreciated :)
Loving Wife to Matt, Proud Mommy to Kylie & Lucas!
ok my son slept with me to, one day i was enough darn it lol, i dont like to hear him scream and cry either, so what i did was i put him into his own bed and room and i laided on the floor until he fell asleep, then little by little i moved closer to the door. and after about 3 days he was sleeping in his own bed and his own room. good luck sweetie!
We had to let our dd cio it out too--the first night is the hardest, but it does get better. but when she wakes in the middle of the night, i go in there and sit with her; make sure she's okay, not wet, sick etc. --Then if she's okay and just wanting attention, i let her cio again.
Mama, you don't need to be ashamed about co-sleeping! :)
I just now got my 23 month old to sleep in her bed. It's rough at first! Maybe get your oldest a book about monsters... it helped my little girl. :) I can't remember the name of the damn book though. Made the monster seem like a big baby...and it has a little girl with cowboy boots. I dunno. Google it. lol.
I co-slept *sorta* with both of my kids when they were newborns...with my oldest she would NOT sleep in her crib. Being a new teen mother, I knew nothing of swaddling, swings, etc, etc, so I put her in the boppy and propped a bottle in her mouth (see, your not the only one thats done something bad! lol). When we moved out of my inlaws place, she was 4 months old and slept in her crib from then on with some CIO...she has never been a good sleeper, and still isn't (shes 2 and a half now). With my youngest, I didn't have a crib because the oldest was still in it (she was 12 months when the baby was born) so the baby slept with me until she turned 6 months. One morning i woke up and she was all the way across the house in the middle of the kitchen floor. lol. We went out and bought a toddler bed for our oldest and put the baby in the crib. We've had to and still have to do CIO but it does work and it lets you get some sanity and sleep. Its hard, at frist, but it will help them and you. Put them in their beds, give them whatever they take to go to bed (lovies, cup, blanket, whatever) and walk out. If they cry, give it about 5 minutes, go in, lay them down without saying anything, and walk back out. If you talk, hold, sing, coddle, they will know that they're getting your attention. Hopefully a few times of this and they will be used to it. Maybe get a book about monsters for your daughter, and a night light.
your children should not sleep in the same bed as you... it makes them high risk for suffercating.. but anyways.. let them cry it out.. if you show them they can get away with crying to be able to sleep with you they will only become more attached. both my kids always sleep in their own rooms since birth.. if you let them sleep in the same room.. when they wake up at night they are more apt to cry to wake you up when they see you... if they are by themselves they learn to just go back to sleep unless they need something.. my son is 2 and he sleeps in his bed until daylight.. he knows if its still dark hes not getting up so he wont even cry.. my daughter is 9 months almost and she only crys if she gets hungry.. and knows she is to go right back to sleep after until its light out
Quoting Syracuse_Mom:
your children should not sleep in the same bed as you... it makes them high risk for suffercating..
I heard this somewhere and it supposedly works, to help with the bed time monsters, take a spray bottle and fill it with water and maybe some thing else, for effect, and let them spray it under the bed. Mark the bottle like "anti-monster spray" or something like that. Make up a story to go along with the spray like it has magical powers to keep the monsters away. It might take a few nights but its worth a shot.
Nanci
WELL I TOTALLY FEEL FOR YOU I DONT LIKE TO HERE MY CHILDREN CRY EITHOR AND I DONT KNOW IF THIS WILL BE ANY HELP BUT WHEN HE WAKES UP IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT LET HIM CRY FOR 5 TO 10 MINUTES BEFOR YOU GO IN HIS ROOM AND IF YOU GO IN HIS ROOM DONT PICK HIM UP LAY HIM DOWN RUB HIS BACK TALK QUIETLY OR SING TO HIM UNTIL HE FALLS BACK ASLEEP IF THIS DONT WORK TRY SITTING IN A CHAIR IN HIS ROOM AND EACH NIGHT MOVE THE CHAIR CLOSER TO THE DOOR TILL IT IS OUT OF THE ROOM GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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on Jun. 25, 2009 at 4:02 PM