Would you condiser it adultery?

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  • acissejessica
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 8:21 PM

• no

  

  
  

  

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  • GOBryan
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 8:23 PM

• LMAO!! I guess it depends on who one's asking..
  

  Quoting mamapaparazzi:
  
  

  Even if it took 4 years.  Like I said, sex isn't so important that it can't wait.
  

  Quoting GOBryan:
  
  

  What if the divorce took 4 years??
  

  Quoting mamapaparazzi:
  
  

  Sorry, I'm a traditionalist.  Until everything is final, any sexual encounter with someone who is not your soon-to-be-ex spouse is adultery to me.  Meaning I would personally feel like I was committing adultery if I did it.
  

  Dating without sex... borderline, in my most humble opinion.

  Sex is not so important to me that I wouldn't be able to wait for the ink to dry on divorce papers, and in that situation, if the man I wanted to be with wasn't able to wait, he wouldn't be the type I'd want to be with anyway.
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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  • mamapaparazzi
  on Jul. 1, 2009 at 8:31 PM

• True, LOL....
  

  Quoting GOBryan:
  
  

  LMAO!! I guess it depends on who one's asking..
  

  Quoting mamapaparazzi:
  
  

  Even if it took 4 years.  Like I said, sex isn't so important that it can't wait.
  

  Quoting GOBryan:
  
  

  What if the divorce took 4 years??
  

  Quoting mamapaparazzi:
  
  

  Sorry, I'm a traditionalist.  Until everything is final, any sexual encounter with someone who is not your soon-to-be-ex spouse is adultery to me.  Meaning I would personally feel like I was committing adultery if I did it.
  

  Dating without sex... borderline, in my most humble opinion.

  Sex is not so important to me that I wouldn't be able to wait for the ink to dry on divorce papers, and in that situation, if the man I wanted to be with wasn't able to wait, he wouldn't be the type I'd want to be with anyway.
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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  • F_Stathouse
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 12:34 AM

• No it's not; I was legally separated from my ex-husband; when I moved in with my now DH.  And we {me and ex} had a baby together about 1 and half  year old.  We were seperated for 4-5mths.  And I got full custody as did DH of my son as I was pregnant with his brother when we went to court.  It was the 2nd year and on the 3rd year it was finalized the divorce.

  Now our baby all he knows is DH is Daddy; so yeah I'm happy!
  

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  • F_Stathouse
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 12:42 AM

• I can barley make it a week without it how do you make for 4 years?

  COMA!  Imao....
  

  Quoting mamapaparazzi:
  
  

  True, LOL....
  

  Quoting GOBryan:
  
  

  LMAO!! I guess it depends on who one's asking..
  

  Quoting mamapaparazzi:
  
  

  Even if it took 4 years.  Like I said, sex isn't so important that it can't wait.
  

  Quoting GOBryan:
  
  

  What if the divorce took 4 years??
  

  Quoting mamapaparazzi:
  
  

  Sorry, I'm a traditionalist.  Until everything is final, any sexual encounter with someone who is not your soon-to-be-ex spouse is adultery to me.  Meaning I would personally feel like I was committing adultery if I did it.
  

  Dating without sex... borderline, in my most humble opinion.

  Sex is not so important to me that I wouldn't be able to wait for the ink to dry on divorce papers, and in that situation, if the man I wanted to be with wasn't able to wait, he wouldn't be the type I'd want to be with anyway.
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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  • Jessica090507
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 12:56 AM

• I wouldn't consider it Adultery - You are separated and are in the process of a divorce why not be happy while your doing it - My husband was separated from his ex wife for 11 years before they even filed for a divorce - We were enganged and I was pregnant when he went for his divorce and we got married the day after it was finalized...

  I say go for it if your ready!!! 

  

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  • mommybug77
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 12:59 AM

• Personally once I signed my papers I was done. The divorce was not finalized for about a year. I was not waiting that long to move on with my life. Once I signed it was my life again & no longer connected to his.

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  • zodia
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 1:07 AM

• In court, i honestly do not know.

  As far as a social, moral and personal perspective goes, No, i do not think that dating before the divorce is finalized is considered adultery.

  The way i see it is, if your separated, it isn't cheating. I honestly don't see how that CAN be considered cheating { outside of the courts eyes type of thing anyway}.
  

  
  

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  • Datina
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 11:24 AM

• Bump! I'm still curious. I love seeing what everyone thinks.

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  • acissejessica
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 11:30 AM

• God never intended people to be unhappy. If youve made the choice to divorce, then obviously your not betraying your husband to sleep with someone else. And if its not going to be held against you in court, then I d dont see any reason NOT to have sex. People say o well you can hold out, but if youve been married and are getting a divorce, you could probably use a good lay AND the initial stages of a relatiinship, the excitement and anticipation, thats one of the hardest things to resist! I could hold out on sex with a crappy husband for 4 years yea sure, but if i was getting a divorce and found a guy i just couldnt keep  my hands off of, everything else would just go out the window! Its hard to not have sex at the beginning of any relationship let alone after a crappy marriage! so NO its not adultery. You dont owe him anything. AND ill bet you a tion of money that he would say NO so he can go out and get laid!
  

  Quoting Datina:
  
  

  Bump! I'm still curious. I love seeing what everyone thinks.

  
  

  

  
  

  

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