Would you condiser it adultery?

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  • Datina
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 11:34 AM

• I never said anything about having sex with someone else... I was simply talking about dating or even beginning a new relationship before paperwork is finalized... but a good lay would be nice! Lol! Its been a looooong time.
  

  Quoting acissejessica:
  
  

  God never intended people to be unhappy. If youve made the choice to divorce, then obviously your not betraying your husband to sleep with someone else. And if its not going to be held against you in court, then I d dont see any reason NOT to have sex. People say o well you can hold out, but if youve been married and are getting a divorce, you could probably use a good lay AND the initial stages of a relatiinship, the excitement and anticipation, thats one of the hardest things to resist! I could hold out on sex with a crappy husband for 4 years yea sure, but if i was getting a divorce and found a guy i just couldnt keep  my hands off of, everything else would just go out the window! Its hard to not have sex at the beginning of any relationship let alone after a crappy marriage! so NO its not adultery. You dont owe him anything. AND ill bet you a tion of money that he would say NO so he can go out and get laid!

  Quoting Datina:
  
  

  Bump! I'm still curious. I love seeing what everyone thinks.

   

  
  

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  • acissejessica
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 12:12 PM

• yea how is it fair for you to not date? Obviously if youre in court for divorce your relationship is over. If you didnt get married, the law wouldnt be involved and you would have been broken
  up by now right? so yea its not adultury. Especially if youre not even thinking about sex yet, just dating at all. I would look at it that way. If my husband and I were getting a divorce, I would cousider us "broken up" at the point that we said fine its a divorce then. Even if we havent even SEEN a lawyer yet, just the fact that we both decided it was over between us would mean that was the end of the relationship.

  Quoting Datina:
  
  

  I never said anything about having sex with someone else... I was simply talking about dating or even beginning a new relationship before paperwork is finalized... but a good lay would be nice! Lol! Its been a looooong time.

  Quoting acissejessica:
  
  

  God never intended people to be unhappy. If youve made the choice to divorce, then obviously your not betraying your husband to sleep with someone else. And if its not going to be held against you in court, then I d dont see any reason NOT to have sex. People say o well you can hold out, but if youve been married and are getting a divorce, you could probably use a good lay AND the initial stages of a relatiinship, the excitement and anticipation, thats one of the hardest things to resist! I could hold out on sex with a crappy husband for 4 years yea sure, but if i was getting a divorce and found a guy i just couldnt keep  my hands off of, everything else would just go out the window! Its hard to not have sex at the beginning of any relationship let alone after a crappy marriage! so NO its not adultery. You dont owe him anything. AND ill bet you a tion of money that he would say NO so he can go out and get laid!

  Quoting Datina:
  
  

  Bump! I'm still curious. I love seeing what everyone thinks.

   

   

  
  

  

  
  

  

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  • Datina
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 10:57 PM

• I like the way you think. :)
  

  Quoting acissejessica:
  
  

  yea how is it fair for you to not date? Obviously if youre in court for divorce your relationship is over. If you didnt get married, the law wouldnt be involved and you would have been broken
  up by now right? so yea its not adultury. Especially if youre not even thinking about sex yet, just dating at all. I would look at it that way. If my husband and I were getting a divorce, I would cousider us "broken up" at the point that we said fine its a divorce then. Even if we havent even SEEN a lawyer yet, just the fact that we both decided it was over between us would mean that was the end of the relationship.

  Quoting Datina:
  
  

  I never said anything about having sex with someone else... I was simply talking about dating or even beginning a new relationship before paperwork is finalized... but a good lay would be nice! Lol! Its been a looooong time.

  Quoting acissejessica:
  
  

  God never intended people to be unhappy. If youve made the choice to divorce, then obviously your not betraying your husband to sleep with someone else. And if its not going to be held against you in court, then I d dont see any reason NOT to have sex. People say o well you can hold out, but if youve been married and are getting a divorce, you could probably use a good lay AND the initial stages of a relatiinship, the excitement and anticipation, thats one of the hardest things to resist! I could hold out on sex with a crappy husband for 4 years yea sure, but if i was getting a divorce and found a guy i just couldnt keep  my hands off of, everything else would just go out the window! Its hard to not have sex at the beginning of any relationship let alone after a crappy marriage! so NO its not adultery. You dont owe him anything. AND ill bet you a tion of money that he would say NO so he can go out and get laid!

  Quoting Datina:
  
  

  Bump! I'm still curious. I love seeing what everyone thinks.

   

   

   

  
  

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  • Haileysmom0530
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 11:28 PM

• Well, and even if you were having a relationship with someone and it comes up in court that you're in a "sexual relationship", how would anyone prove that? LOL.  

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  • TAG2.0
  on Jul. 2, 2009 at 11:43 PM

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  Quoting GOBryan:
  
  

  LMAO!! I guess it depends on who one's asking..
  

  Quoting mamapaparazzi:
  
  

   

   

  
  

  Heyyy Oh! I was waiting for that response!!! I agree as well.
  

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  • gordonfannn
  on Jul. 3, 2009 at 11:00 AM

• I seperated from my then husband Aug 17th, 2000.  And wasn't ready to sign papers or really anything then....but he forced my hand by telling me either we get back together by Christmas, or we get a divorce.  He was ALREADY seeing someone...I had found cards from her in the house (I let him keep the house, I just wanted out).  So when he gave me the ultimatum...I said OK, let's get a divorce.  We shared a lawyer, nothing was contested.  After we signed the papers, our lawyer told us that we should live as if we are divorced.  He continued to date this woman, and even let her move in MY old house.  We were informed in March that the divorce couldn't be finalized until we attended "Divorced Parenting" classes...evidently, the state of Alabama requires this is you have children under a certain age in the marriage.  We had 2 children, boy 11 and girl 6.  Anyway...of course there was a fee for this and I didn't have the money, and was in no hurry...I wasn't the one living with someone and no one was pushing me to get it finalized.  He called me in mid April and offered to pay my part of the classes also, so I went ahead and attended the classes with him and my children.  Our divorce was final the end of May.  He got remarried Aug 2nd or 3rd of that year.  So, he remarried in less than a year after we had been together for 16 years and married for 14.  Oh well!  He definately broke the covenant before the papers were final...heck, before they were even signed!!!

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