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Fine I Give Up Then!!! UPDATE

kiddiecare05
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on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:47 PM

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I am not that bad a cook I swear. But every time I bring (or try to bring) something to my fiancees family's events, they dont eat it.

I made chocolate crinkles first (betty crocker recipe, only I make them bigger than it calls for so that they are larger cookies) and have brought them to a few events. No one ever ate any on his side but they are always gone on my family's side so they can't be that bad. I have also had non family members ask for the recipe. I know his family eats chocolate too, so that isn't it.

So for the 4th tomorrow I was going to make rainbow jello. It is a big bash over there where neighbors, friends, etc all come. I dont really like jello but this is pretty cool, it is more solid and looks neat...it also tastes better than regular jello. Even though I know some adults don't like jello I figured that it would be something that the kids would like, and this is another recipe that others outside of his family really enjoyed. Well my fiancee calls his dad and mentions it and I could tell his dad was less than thrilled and even asked if that was all I was making. He was disappointed there wouldnt be liquor in it. I asked my fiancee if I should still make it and he said "its up to you" like he didnt think anyone would eat it but didnt want to hurt my feelings.

So I give up!! I try to bring things and its hurtful to have noses silently snubbed at what I bring. I would be more than willing to bring what they tell me but every time I ask they say "just bring whatever" or something like that. I dont want to make it now because my feelings are hurt but I dont want to show up empty handed because then I look like a jerk. Another part of me wants to bring it and hope it does well with the families that show up to the party.

What should I do?

Here's a picture of the jello from the site I got the recipe from:

http://dobetter.wordpress.com/2008/03/18/rainbow-jello/

UPDATE:

So I made the jello and brought it, and my SO brought his jello shots. His jello shots were placed on the table outside where everyone was and mine was put inside, but I didnt mind because there were only appetizers out at that point. Some kids even went inside because they found out there was jello, which lifted my spirits.

It was a very rainy day here so they had three tents with awnings up. People started bringing out food (I couldnt help with this because I was carrying my 14 month old). My jello stayed in the house. Or so I thought. I assumed they were using it as a dessert dish. It turns out someone had brought it outside and placed it on a table out in the rain instead of on a table under one of the tents. Pretty harsh and somewhat hurtful, because by the time I found out my jello was drenched. But I could tell some of it was eaten, so at least the kids enjoyed it for a little while :(

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kiddiecare05

on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:47 PM

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- kiddiecare05
on Jul. 3, 2009 at 7:24 PM
LOL! My fiancee would forget and eat them all

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- Mom2LiamNMolly
on Jul. 3, 2009 at 7:43 PM
well, he wouldn't get TOO sick, lol!!!

Stefanie - Mom to Irish Twins Liam 7/07 (IUGR) and Molly 06/08 (IUGR, Developmental Delays, Pre-Natal Stroke) and Wife to Mark since 2006.

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- gmkamm
on Jul. 3, 2009 at 8:12 PM
Bring a bag of plain boring potato chips. (BTW, the jello looks great. It would be a hit at my family events).

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- Armywife6
on Jul. 3, 2009 at 10:30 PM
If that's how they wanna be I'd say pick something up but then they could think your lazy...hmm..make the jello (BTW it looks awesome) & buy something (nothing big a loaf of sourdough bread or something). IDK just an idea. GL.

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- lunarlady
on Jul. 3, 2009 at 10:50 PM
what a cool idea and thanks for sharing the recipe! yum. my kids are gonna beg me to make it. yeah, i'd agree with a few others. bring the jello for the kids. And i'd pick up a thing of 4th of July CUPCAKES and some canned soda. sorry to hear these people are picky eaters. whatever food is your hubby's fave is probably his parents type of food too. maybe they are more of a meat-and-potatoes family??? good luck and best wishes.

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on Jul. 3, 2009 at 10:55 PM
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- Momsince1106
on Jul. 3, 2009 at 10:59 PM
i wouldnt bring anything, fuck him
or buy something simple at the store... like a bag of chips and a thing of french onion dip
and if they dont like ur cooking, at least that means u wont have to have them all over

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- CARA2008
on Jul. 3, 2009 at 11:00 PM
I am with everyone else, bring the jello for the kids!! Family sucks!!!

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- luvmyparties
on Jul. 3, 2009 at 11:04 PM
I would say screw it and not take anything. i especially wouldn't make something special for the father. i am a bitch though and I am also not a short order cook. If you feel like you HAVE to take something, go get a package of the generic store bought cookies. (diet nasty ones at that)

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- kiddiecare05
on Jul. 3, 2009 at 11:24 PM
Thanks for the replies! It's not just his dad that wants the alcohol, his whole family drinks like crazy, his dad is mild compared to the rest....now that we have our son we don't stay late enough for that part, just the family friendly part.

I did decide to make the jello for the kids and my fiancee is making a few jello shots for the picky-ass adults. (Who do eat desserts they just won't try mine). Oh well. At least they can't say I didn't bring anything.