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Fine I Give Up Then!!! UPDATE

kiddiecare05
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on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:47 PM

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I am not that bad a cook I swear. But every time I bring (or try to bring) something to my fiancees family's events, they dont eat it.

I made chocolate crinkles first (betty crocker recipe, only I make them bigger than it calls for so that they are larger cookies) and have brought them to a few events. No one ever ate any on his side but they are always gone on my family's side so they can't be that bad. I have also had non family members ask for the recipe. I know his family eats chocolate too, so that isn't it.

So for the 4th tomorrow I was going to make rainbow jello. It is a big bash over there where neighbors, friends, etc all come. I dont really like jello but this is pretty cool, it is more solid and looks neat...it also tastes better than regular jello. Even though I know some adults don't like jello I figured that it would be something that the kids would like, and this is another recipe that others outside of his family really enjoyed. Well my fiancee calls his dad and mentions it and I could tell his dad was less than thrilled and even asked if that was all I was making. He was disappointed there wouldnt be liquor in it. I asked my fiancee if I should still make it and he said "its up to you" like he didnt think anyone would eat it but didnt want to hurt my feelings.

So I give up!! I try to bring things and its hurtful to have noses silently snubbed at what I bring. I would be more than willing to bring what they tell me but every time I ask they say "just bring whatever" or something like that. I dont want to make it now because my feelings are hurt but I dont want to show up empty handed because then I look like a jerk. Another part of me wants to bring it and hope it does well with the families that show up to the party.

What should I do?

Here's a picture of the jello from the site I got the recipe from:

http://dobetter.wordpress.com/2008/03/18/rainbow-jello/

UPDATE:

So I made the jello and brought it, and my SO brought his jello shots. His jello shots were placed on the table outside where everyone was and mine was put inside, but I didnt mind because there were only appetizers out at that point. Some kids even went inside because they found out there was jello, which lifted my spirits.

It was a very rainy day here so they had three tents with awnings up. People started bringing out food (I couldnt help with this because I was carrying my 14 month old). My jello stayed in the house. Or so I thought. I assumed they were using it as a dessert dish. It turns out someone had brought it outside and placed it on a table out in the rain instead of on a table under one of the tents. Pretty harsh and somewhat hurtful, because by the time I found out my jello was drenched. But I could tell some of it was eaten, so at least the kids enjoyed it for a little while :(

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kiddiecare05

on Jul. 3, 2009 at 6:47 PM

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- julie1218
on Jul. 3, 2009 at 11:32 PM
LMAO.

Quoting Mom2LiamNMolly:

I would make a nice pate on crackers... a little canned cat food mixed with cheese and spread over ritz crackers!!!!!

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- Nanna22
on Jul. 4, 2009 at 10:14 AM
My DH's family was the same way (w/o the alcohol). It took years before they finally realized that I was a good cook. Do not let them get you down!! Keep trying!! Eventually someone in his family will grow up!! BTW the Jello looks nummy - do it for the kids, and I say to H___ with the Jello-shots.

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- AZM
on Jul. 4, 2009 at 11:10 AM
that jello looks so pretty and neat I would make eny way and the kidds will love it

as for the adults I dont know the adults sound stuck up I would feel bad to if I was in your shoes but dont if they dont eat what you bring that there problem they will just miss out on something tasty because I am sure your crinkls cookies were real good.

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- pittbull1369
on Jul. 4, 2009 at 1:27 PM
Just bring them and enjoy your day!

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- txlattelady
on Jul. 4, 2009 at 2:09 PM
You girls crack me up! I wouldn't want to piss some of you off. LOL No pate for me, but a great idea!!!!

As upsetting as it is, and I agree with all of your posts...., but when it comes down to it, This is the man you love. He can't help that these people are his family...we all have 1 or 2 in ours....be the bigger person. Make that wonderful looking dessert, and what's not eaten bring home and have with your own family. It's their loss. You are a much nicer and caring person than they will ever be, if they act like that......You have to let us know what happens

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- jabs54
on Jul. 4, 2009 at 10:25 PM
I'm sorry, that was really unthoughtful to put it out in the rain like that! If I were you I would just bring soda/beer next time.

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- txlattelady
on Jul. 5, 2009 at 12:18 AM
OMG!!! Honey, I was the one that said, be the bigger person here. Screw those people! They put your dish on a table in the rain! No!!! that is completely uncalled for. Next time, Do Not Take Anything. Your boyfriend should have stood up and said something to his family. That is way past insulting.....

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- Prizm39
on Jul. 5, 2009 at 12:45 AM
Hi Kiddiecare05,
My name is Prizm and I know exactly how you feel, over the years I have had to adjust to all kinds of family members who thought it was necessary to test my whits and still I fight it. If they don't approve of you try to find out why. When you truly love someone and you are engaged to be married try to bring the best dish noone would ever think of. Get some recipes from Paula Deen or Rachel Ray or get some great ideas from some of the ladies at a local church. If it is a dessert then bring a sweet treat like a bucket of ice cream and also some finger sandwiches.
Try not to take the easy quick fix thing because people love to be wowed and then they'll have something good to say.
Try a casserole or an appetizer like Lil' Smokies wrapped in Cresent rolls and bake them or make something like a Pilsbury Choc cake mix following the ingredients with a very easy recipe for a great frosting: Take 1 container of frozen whipped topping and thaw until smooth add 1 box of Instant chocolate pudding mix and stir untill smooth and frost your cake everyone will love it.
Let me know how it works and maybe I can give you some more of my favorite cooking tips.
Prizm

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- BrooklynnMama
on Jul. 5, 2009 at 1:01 AM
OMG if someone treated me like that i wouldnt be bothered with them at all. Next time dont bring anything at all who cares if they talk about we all are talked about until the day we die nothing will change say f*ck them and bring your presence and a hearty appetite next time.